Thought we would share some trials and tribulations with you as all the guys are always complaining that couples aren't interested...
Ms PF wants an extra guy to join us so we place an ad. Go through the responses and sift out the duds
Guy 1 - a google search of his email reveals he is on the Top 25 mail spammers list. Scrap that idea
Guy 2 - a google search of his email finds a bunch of ads he placed on cumtree asking for cash in return for sex. MMM no thanks
Guy 3 - meet him for drinks, all keen. But never hear from him again
Guy 4 - stands us up when we arrange to meet
Guy 5 - email him but never hear back
Guy 6 - meet him for drinks. Never hear from him again
Guy 7 - meet him for drinks, all keen. But never hear from him again. Claims to be busy studying
What a lot of PT!
PS: Single guys we aren't looking anymore. We found someone, so no need to contact us
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Quote by Pussinboots1
Ermm Anyone can GOOGLE ME??????? oh lordy lord..........Really???? Now I am paranoid all over again!!!!
Yip, anyone can google anyone.
problem with that though, is that unless you specifically know the person you are googling you could have a number of inaccurate "findings'
A lot of what is available on the web is not put there by the actual person or even someone who knows him / her
There are almost always guaranteed to be more than one person with the same name on the web . . . .
The list goes on and on . . . and yes, some of it is even positive.
PIB, unless you allow secrets and pics / vidoes to be available to "strangers" you should be pretty much unaffected . . . and people who can hack into other peoples PC's, would not bother with people like us, they would be going after big and important and powerful and rich , . . . . . and they would not spend the energy to create "false" info on the web . . . .
This is of course just my own two cents worth of an opinion.
Orgasminator
It goes both ways. I talk to a couple and we set up a night to meet for drinks at the Dros, when I ask about confirming out meet in the morning they go silent. I've also been left hanging.
Orgasminator
Quote by playcouple
It goes both ways. I talk to a couple and we set up a night to meet for drinks at the Dros, when I ask about confirming out meet in the morning they go silent. I've also been left hanging.
well you are one of the better ones in punctuality and so forth
Thanks, I must say you are a great host :)
We need to get a name and praise sticky started.
Lee where does one find that thread or is it deleted?
As for Internet Identity, there are many people with the exact same names but email addresses and such are unique.
For instance, there must be 100's of thousands of John Smiths in the world but only one: (Example only) or or even They would be three different people. Please make sure you type it correctly.
So as PerfectFit suggested, if you check someone's reputation by using their email address, the results should refer only to that person.
We also use FaceBook to check people out before a meeting, without them knowing, providing they are on FB of course. Even a name as common as john smith can be filtered down if you have an age and area. If they have an unusual name and you have an age and area, you can often still find them. Don't friend them if you don't trust them.
Quite frankly, with what we know now, as there are so many single guys wanting to meet, we wouldn't even bother, unless they sent a pic of their ID or drivers licence.
At one stage, there was a persistent but well mannered "single" guy wanting to meet with us. He was even member verified (by admin only) so we thought we'd give him a chance. Turns out he was hiding it from his girl.
Seems like there are more big talk guys then those who follow through.
There are a number of decent guys on this site. I think it's more a case of learning how to identify those that are not big talkers. I believe and it has been my experience (with guys, girls and couples) that the fantasy is more appealing than the reality.
I my self, have met and played with some great couples from this site
*wink @k_c
Just my 2c worth
Orgasminator
Quote by Funwithcouples
Seems like there are more big talk guys then those who follow through.
There are a number of decent guys on this site. I think it's more a case of learning how to identify those that are not big talkers. I believe and it has been my experience (with guys, girls and couples) that the fantasy is more appealing than the reality.
I my self, have met and played with some great couples from this site
*wink @k_c
Just my 2c worth
Unfortunately that seems to be most people on this site. If it's not that then it's people who think after 5 messages you will drop your life and come over to their house to play immediately.
There are decent people on this site, couples, ladies and guys but there are another 50 equally horrid people to counter the single good example, just keep looking for the nice ones.
Quote by Funwithcouples
Seems like there are more big talk guys then those who follow through.
There are a number of decent guys on this site. I think it's more a case of learning how to identify those that are not big talkers. I believe and it has been my experience (with guys, girls and couples) that the fantasy is more appealing than the reality.
I my self, have met and played with some great couples from this site
*wink @k_c
Just my 2c worth
mmm, I think its time for a repeat playdate! 
Forum Virgin
It seems to me that based on the number of profiles and ads that includes the line "PLEASE NO SINGLE GUYS" that there are a lot of single guys who end up making a nuisance of themselves.
What do you think about the idea which I've seen elsewhere that beyond creating a profile and placing ads they should not be allowed to approach anybody. Couples or single women can browse through the available options and make the initial approach. This would certainly reduce the amount of stupid bumbling approaches they receive. Of course after the initial approach the couple or single female can go through their normal vetting process. If the guy is a no show or proves unreliable or a chancer there could possibly be a mechanism for the couple or single woman to endorse the guys profile. In other words those guys that are chancers get a negative rating giving future interested parties a heads up as it were.
Not ideal and I'm sure that if it were to be implemented a bit more thought might have to go into it to avoid potential abuse.
But preventing single guy approaches might make others' experience a bit more pleasurable. Let's face it there're plenty single guys on here. Couples and single ladies are spoilt for choice. I mean it may be a poor analogy but the way it operates now is almost like, instead of going to the SPCA to choose a new pet the people wanting a new pet are put on display and all the dogs running up and down barking trying to catch the eye of a potential new owner.
Just an idea. But it seems to me a logical solution to the problem.
Quote by Adrian_Koenig
It seems to me that based on the number of profiles and ads that includes the line "PLEASE NO SINGLE GUYS" that there are a lot of single guys who end up making a nuisance of themselves.
What do you think about the idea which I've seen elsewhere that beyond creating a profile and placing ads they should not be allowed to approach anybody. Couples or single women can browse through the available options and make the initial approach. This would certainly reduce the amount of stupid bumbling approaches they receive. Of course after the initial approach the couple or single female can go through their normal vetting process. If the guy is a no show or proves unreliable or a chancer there could possibly be a mechanism for the couple or single woman to endorse the guys profile. In other words those guys that are chancers get a negative rating giving future interested parties a heads up as it were.
Not ideal and I'm sure that if it were to be implemented a bit more thought might have to go into it to avoid potential abuse.
But preventing single guy approaches might make others' experience a bit more pleasurable. Let's face it there're plenty single guys on here. Couples and single ladies are spoilt for choice. I mean it may be a poor analogy but the way it operates now is almost like, instead of going to the SPCA to choose a new pet the people wanting a new pet are put on display and all the dogs running up and down barking trying to catch the eye of a potential new owner.
Just an idea. But it seems to me a logical solution to the problem.
So essentially you are advocating the forced segregation of single guys, in the belief that couples and single ladies have more of a right and are more entitled to contact and "window shop"
Hmmmmmm interesting perspective.
While we are at it, why not take away the right of contact from the bi sexual, gay and lesbian users as well?
Orgasminator
Quote by Adrian_Koenig
It seems to me that based on the number of profiles and ads that includes the line "PLEASE NO SINGLE GUYS" that there are a lot of single guys who end up making a nuisance of themselves.
What do you think about the idea which I've seen elsewhere that beyond creating a profile and placing ads they should not be allowed to approach anybody. Couples or single women can browse through the available options and make the initial approach. This would certainly reduce the amount of stupid bumbling approaches they receive. Of course after the initial approach the couple or single female can go through their normal vetting process. If the guy is a no show or proves unreliable or a chancer there could possibly be a mechanism for the couple or single woman to endorse the guys profile. In other words those guys that are chancers get a negative rating giving future interested parties a heads up as it were.
Not ideal and I'm sure that if it were to be implemented a bit more thought might have to go into it to avoid potential abuse.
But preventing single guy approaches might make others' experience a bit more pleasurable. Let's face it there're plenty single guys on here. Couples and single ladies are spoilt for choice. I mean it may be a poor analogy but the way it operates now is almost like, instead of going to the SPCA to choose a new pet the people wanting a new pet are put on display and all the dogs running up and down barking trying to catch the eye of a potential new owner.
Just an idea. But it seems to me a logical solution to the problem.
So essentially SH will be become the equivalent of a prostitution service where single guys put up their ads and hope for a response. Essentially SH will become cumtree with pictures.
Sexlightened
To get back to the PF's point here. Abd i really hope that they read this.
Yes there are way more single guys on here. Many for the wrong reason. Some want to see your pics others prob wanks off to it.
Now i have noticed your profile a plethora of times probably because you literally live down the road from so your profile keeps popping up at the bottom.
I also checked the profile out cos i cant forget that cleavage but it also didnt have the single male tickbox checked.
Out of respect for your wants i never bothered to message you as gensral messages saying hi seems to not be welcomed by single males.
Anyways so if you ever need a male again. I will be there on time, no ads on cumtree( i removed them all 
). Im not a spammer and ill pitch for drinks on time.
If we have a good evening and chemistry is mutual we proceed. If not we wouldve shared a few hours, some drinks and be friends. No harm.
Respect is mutual so is chemistry.
). Im not a spammer and ill pitch for drinks on time.
If we have a good evening and chemistry is mutual we proceed. If not we wouldve shared a few hours, some drinks and be friends. No harm.
Respect is mutual so is chemistry. 