My wish list..
1) I wish to be able to do,what I still could a year ago.
2)I wish to BE A SEX-TOY reviewer (damn Lee, I am so damn jealous you were one!!!)
3)I wish to be able to meet every person who interest me,but it is not on the cards.
4)I wish for the patience to deal with the endless men who irritate the hell out of me.
5)I really wish for ONE decent,long term NSA Lover,who is not only able to satisfy my vanilla side,but also my VERY KINKY SIDE.
I hope all the guys are reading and PAYING ATTENTION.
It's being laid out in black and white now.
No excuses lol
Not good enough Gerrie.
I want it NOW!
Recently I discovered that the best way to get what you want is to take it :twisted:
PIB! Where is that riding crop? I think I might need to borrow it!
Lee I can imagine you in boots, tight riding pants waving a riding crop
Just let me know what color corset you are wearing I will sent a sexy riders crop to go with the color scheme.
I would think a bull whip(all leather) more appropriate for men on the RUN....it lashes further and stings harder....
Gosh, you guys are really out doing yourselves.
More wishes girls!
I wish I was a sex toy tester. Hubby can write the reviews. I just want to play with them.
I wish I could find a wireless, remote controlled, vibrating egg that's as good as the first one we had.
Cam.
Ok, since you lovely ladies thought it was ok to crash the "Man's wish list" thread, I'm going to take a bit of liberty with this one.
This wish list is basically a way to open our eyes to what the fairer sex wants. Something we all want and need. Please do keep it coming.
To help some of our single and despairing brethren out there I'm going to add a few things that I feel add value to Cam and my relationship. Feel free to disagree with what doesn't suit you. These are in addition to a lot of whats already been mentioned here.:
Meaningful compliments - not just a means to get into her panties. I think most women know the difference, some simply choose to ignore it.
More eye contact. The right look can leave her weak in the knees. (Of course there's more to it that just that - without which, you could come across as plain creepy)
Be intense in the bedroom (lounge, kitchen, dining room table, pool etc also). You can make her feel like the greatest thing that has ever happened to your body or the cheapest slut you have ever f#&ked. Both can be incredible for her and you IF done in the right way. Whatever you do, do it with intensity. (A note those finding it difficult to grasp this concept. Its not about thrusting faster, harder or deeper. Its in the way you feel when you touch her, the look in your eyes, the shutting of your eyes, the whispered word.... you get the picture.)
Make her feel like the greatest thing that has ever happened to you - outside the bedroom.
Through all this, always remember to be a man, not a fawning nor insecure little boy. Take the lead, but know when to hand her the reins. Be lighthearted, but pay attention to what she's saying and more attention to what she's not.
Good luck
I wish....
That men would make more effort...
Ok let me expand, I always thought that it was just a personality thing that we don't seem to talk the same "sex" language, don't get me wrong, we have a very active and good sex life, but I really marvel at the little incompatibilities...
And being on these sites has made me realise that it's not a me and my partner thing, it is, at the very least, a me and all guys thing, perhaps a women, men thing.
I mean I really do welcome any commentary. I am doing some research, looking for people to participate, and any interested parties can pm me, but I did think to myself, "I know a bunch of open-minded people who will be more than willing to weigh in on this thought!"
So here's the senario:
Most men would agree they would love to have sex everyday, even if it is with the same person. Most men would be delighted with the idea of having their wife do the nasty everyday, whenever they wanted...
So why, when presented with a woman who would quite happily do exactly that, do they find themselves slightly bored.
And stop making an effort?
I mean you can't want something with your whole being and when you get what you desire so greatly, yawn?! Or can you?
Ok scenario 2, linked to 1;
Ok so you know exactly what to do to get her interested.
Precisely. Step by step.
You know that it is a guaranteed score if you follow the recipe.
You know because she gave you the recipe.
You know because you've seen it work with your own eyes.
You enjoy sex more if she REALLY enjoys it right?
You know she will enjoy it properly if you get her really interested before you make suggestions.
It only takes 5 minutes, you can do it without pulling a muscle.
So I ask you with tears in my eyes, why the hell wouldn't you use the damn friggin recipe????
Scenario 3;
You are a guy, single or part of a swinging couple. You really want to swing.
Real swinging, with real woman, actual meeting and actual sex. You use SH (hypothetically of course)
You approach a couple. You know you are speaking to the female party
(you have figured it out by the mails or perhaps you are quite bright and can read the profile where it says as much)
You know that showing your dick to girls never got you laid in the past.
You know that it has always required money or charm.
Keeping her in your bed or getting her to come back; well that requires money or skills...
You know these women are swingers and don't want your money.
So for crying in a bucket, please tell me why, as your best approach technique, you would serve up a
tall order of dick, hold the charm & skill?
Help me out guys....
Why won't guys make an effort?
Orrin is say it is a DILLIGAF situation,on BOTH parties sides.I agree!!!
I think in most relationships a stagnant situation develops due to knowing your partner to well,thus some things change in any relationship.
Kids
weight gain M/F
sloppiness both M/F
not caring for them selves both F/M
walking around in really ugly clothes the whole day M/F
no more really sitting together,chatting anymore there is far to MUCH to do to just live a decent life.
not shaving not smelling nice ,no sexy lingerie,no makeup..the list can go on and on and on......
that little sexual spark is gone, that turning of the stomach is not there anymore,when you see your loved one.
each person has grown in his or her own way,but not together.
But do not understand me wrong,it is good to each have your own hobbies and likes and It is also a necessity to have those things together.
to really have a healthy relationship everyone of us should work on it daily and hourly. there is NO excuse for you not doing that.
Here on site we are looking for that little extra excitement, most are couples as it should be, but some of us are singles.
Now here most men are the culprits and most couples as well!!!
I am talking on how men treat us single ladies,but it could just as well be how couples treat a single lady and gent.
a coin always have two sides.
We as women find most men think we are in NEED of sex.(why else is she on a sex site?)
We women who is NOT married are most likely so hideous that we cannot find a decent lay,thus we are and will be so VERY grateful if they are willing to sacrifice them self and have sex with us.(sheesh we could not snag a hubby could we)
so why bother in being nice to us?
Why bother to treat us like ladies (we are after all *selling*/promoting our bodies here on site)
Thus she is free and easy ...
Why bother to let us enjoy the sexual interlude as LONG as the man is enjoying so deserves *this*as he is honoring us poor sods with his godlike being willing to really fuck the fat ,the ugly and the are NOT to speak we should not have minds ,what to say an opinion.
And god forbid if we do not comply to the PENIS that is servicing us. or should I SAY GETTING HIS OWN DAMN ROCKS OFF?
I have come to the conclusion that the above peeves will not ever really change, there are your *gems* whom is really as there are gems in the lady field whom is really there are really gems of couples.
But we all have to find our own GEM. but have to discard a LOT of clots and mud to do that.
I'm one of those guys lucky enough to have a wife who will happily have sex with me whenever, wherever and however I want.
Is that a good thing for me?
Now I can practically hear the resounding "Of course it is!" from almost every guy reading this. But ask yourself what's the best thing about sex? Is it the orgasm? Your own hand and a few toys out there can easily give you that.
"No," you say. "It's the woman that you thrusting into."
Some of the more driven as well as sensitive men may add "The sexual high that comes with pleasing her. Making her cum"
But there's more to it than that. Something evolutionary within most of us. Something needed for survival of our species.
Historically, men were hunters. The the adrenalin pumping thrill and heat of the hunt was often more sought after than the meat from successful kills. Yes, the meat was the necessity, but the heat was what made the kill worthwhile. That's why men often hunted larger and more dangerous animals - even hunting predators that would otherwise hunt them. The adrenalin producing effort made the reward worthwhile. With domesticated animals, things are completely different. The reward is there - easy meat - but with routine effort. There is no thrill, no high when a farmer slaughters a cow. The thrill of the chase makes the catch worth the effort.
Unfortunately its very similar with women and sex. We chase them. Some may think that its our reward when we do catch them that makes the chase worthwhile, but the reality for most is that it's the chase that makes the reward worthwhile (we're talking strictly sex here. Love, companionship, comfort, children are rewards of their own that far outweigh everything else)
Now, for most men, their wives don give it up whenever they want. They have to make an effort to get her in the mood, failing which, they are often shot down. They wish their wives were more like those of the lucky few that enjoy sex-on-a-stick -wherever they want, wherever they want, however they want. They bitch and complain about it to their friends, but as long as they're getting it with relative regularity, they're ok. They work for it, and are thrilled with the reward.
The lucky guy who has sex-on-a-stick can prove to be very unlucky if there is no longer variety or challenge in his relationship. These are the couples that need to make changes. Regularly introduce new things into their sex life. Its a bit more difficult than that. You may have to learn how to turn him down in such a manner that he takes it as a challenge. If you get it right, he'll make the effort . If you get it wrong he may feel like his wife doesn't want sex or is really not in the mood. I can't tell you how to do that with him. Every man is different. If you can't get it right, you may have to sit him down and talk to him. Tell him that he's not making enough effort and you're going to be (not play) hard to get from now on. That may kick start his battery.
Good Luck
Ok, now for scenario 2... (just saw the time. Maybe tomorrow?)
You are awesome, that was an excellent and very insightful response. I think you got it on the money.
Can't wait to see what you say about the other two scenarios!
I think everyone else thought I was whining and ranting about my peeves - I'm not bitching guys, I want a genuine real reason.
I'm looking for a real explanation so I can help people work through these types of issues.
To much for my small brain
what i have to say is based on these beliefs
1 men are stupid when we think with our penis
2 the Chinese proverb , be careful what u wish for ...is accurate
3 men get a thrill out of accomplishing things
i agree with most of what cam fun has to say but my evolutionary path differs the caveman was a hunter but for it came to women he beat her on her head with a club and dragged her to the cave to satisfy his primal urges (well if u believe what the tv says).like modern man i think the cave man was also a adrenaline junkie (which he discovered while trying not to become food while hunting for food) so yes we race, jump out of planes and do all sorts of stupid things for the sense of accomplishment or the adrenaline for the caveman life was good until they started forming communities(safety in numbers).these communities developed norms and no longer could the cave man break out the old club,so he improvised .he become the protector and the provider ,the alpha male .this was cool because that's who he was and winning a ladies heart (by taking care of her needs) was as time moved on so we evolved further .women could now protect and provide for themselves and her needs evolved. man had to adapt in order to satisfy his needs for sex and became what we needed to become to win the jumped through hoops ,said all the right things, watched movies that we hated the whole lot , well because hey this is the girl we think is the one, or we seek the Adrenalin rush of notching another one its at this stage that we actually start to think with our remember the Chinese proverb...its only at this point that we start to asses if what we wanted and chased after is actually what we needed to make us happy,stupid i know but refer to item 1 at this stage we either start to change ...back to our true selves or we learn and enjoy being this new person, and we truly evolve .so having said all that the solution is him of why he is lucky to be with you ,how exactly that is done is not so simple.
your second item ...the recipe
we know the recipe given works but we also know it was written as a result of the work done by previous cooks in your kitchen so see item 3 above. we just want to add our own herbs and spices to the mix .
scenario 3
see item 1 above
My problem with this thread is the length and not the content
I do not want to read pages with minimal paragraphs, rather read my engineering texts
I have been enjoying the responses.
Although they have been quite long and detailed, I have enjoyed the thought processes involved, and how they have made me think about the scenarios...
;)
C
I know a lot of guys (and some women) say they want more sex.
But I heard a great talk:
In which the speaker makes the observation:
"...what we really want is BETTER sex..."
I think she might be onto something!
I think some of the guys responding to this thread will really like her take on things!
Oh yes ladies staying pure to our 'word game' .......
ALL YOUR WISHES ARE GRANTED, but can only happen in your second life!
I wish for more ladies to write their wish lists!
BUT
it has been very insightful. I love - sorry - I am addicted to this forum! Now, what happend to the "wish list" ladies?
Seeing that there are no more wishes ( or maybe just a pause...) why does it seem that some of you (women) are never satisfied? Maybe I must rephrase that to why are some people never satisfied and I suppose it includes me as well? You might disagree with me, but I think that (I speak only for myself and from personel experiences) we sometimes forget why we married him/her. Maybe it is because of all the outside influences - jobs, stress, bonds, debt, PETROL, etc. that we tend to - after many years - forget about or it gets stored a box and over time get pushed into the deepest, darkest corner in our mind. (Anyone watched Mark Gungor's DVD on men's brain, women's brain? EXCELLENT!!! 
It is not that we(generalizing here) do it on purpose, it just sort of happen and sometimes I suppose that box get so stacked away that we forget about it's existance. I think that is when people get divorced.
This is why housekeeping is so important. We need to MAKE TIME for each other in a relationship and as individuals to take out that box, clean the storage area and put that box in last so that when we open the door - that will be the first thing we see - after we have actually spend some time opening it and going through it. I'm not talking only of the memories, but the actual feeling you felt - that first touch, first date, first kiss, first, first, first... Forget about the clothes that lay everywhere, forget about the toothpaste that is squashed from the middle of the tube, forget everything and just focus on that - your first feelings... Then, once you have that, you can discuss other matters like not enough noogi noogi or whatever the problem may be - but always remember to keep an eye on that box and do open it now and then just to refresh your memory.