Just cant come right

11 Jan 2013

Im probably gonna be crucified for this. Im actually getting despondent, im getting know where on the site and ive been as patient as can be. ive come to realise that the guys out there just go in forthe kill and that makes it difficult for the nicer ones to get in ther. Girls, and couple...please advise me and help if you can.

11 Jan 2013

A few things stand out, your profile says you have a partner that isn't' participating. If you are swinging with her knowledge and you have permission, then you need to state that clearly. This will increase your chances significantly. You also describe yourself as medium build with no complaints on your assets. This an extremely generic choice, add to this your no-public-pictures situation, well it's like having no window display in a shop. Not very good marketing. No are essentially a non- person, albeit a very nice and polite one. You're in a good place with a lot of members in the area, so you aren't hamstrung like some members in the EC. Unfortunately what a lot of people don't think about, is that this swinging stuff is far more like dating and far less like catalogue shopping than we would like to acknowledge. It takes a little bit of marketing. And from a brand perspective, your profile isn't as strong as it could be smile

I just say that swinging without your committed partner is a BIG thing. It really is a deal breaker for a lot of couples. I suggest reading the forum "so you want to be a swinger" it might help a bit.

11 Jan 2013

Quote by MattLeeEC
A few things stand out, your profile says you have a partner that isn't' participating. If you are swinging with her knowledge and you have permission, then you need to state that clearly. This will increase your chances significantly.
You also describe yourself as medium build with no complaints on your assets. This an extremely generic choice, add to this your no-public-pictures situation, well it's like having no window display in a shop.
Not very good marketing. No are essentially a non- person, albeit a very nice and polite one.
You're in a good place with a lot of members in the area, so you aren't hamstrung like some members in the EC.
Unfortunately what a lot of people don't think about, is that this swinging stuff is far more like dating and far less like catalogue shopping than we would like to acknowledge.
It takes a little bit of marketing. And from a brand perspective, your profile isn't as strong as it could be
I just say that swinging without your committed partner is a BIG thing. It really is a deal breaker for a lot of couples. I suggest reading the forum "so you want to be a swinger" it might help a bit.

I cannot agree more...
Well said and to the point.
And yes, there is so much more to swinging than "getting somewhere". It so reminds me of that Queen hit "It's a hard life..." But hey, if the lifestyle wasn't "hard", we would've been whore mongers... lol

12 Jan 2013

nicely put lee, thank you for your wisdom wink

14 Jan 2013

Thanks very much, and i appreciatethe honesty and the direct replies.

14 Jan 2013

add a dash of patience and ...... stir with the necessary sensitivity until creamy and tasty! wink

14 Jan 2013

Quote by Gerrie2012
add a dash of patience and ......
stir with the necessary sensitivity until creamy and tasty!

hehehe that is a good answer hehehehehe

14 Jan 2013

Quote by jimmyjim
Im probably gonna be crucified for this.
Im actually getting despondent, im getting know where on the site and ive been as patient as can be. ive come to realise that the guys out there just go in forthe kill and that makes it difficult for the nicer ones to get in ther.
Girls, and couple...please advise me and help if you can.

Patience my friend. This as with anything in life, you need to showcase your strengths. Everyone has positives. As the old saying goes, if you have it, flaunt it. So do it!
If its a great smile, a way with words, a pretty boy face or a body of a Greek god.
And the most important part, just be you! People will be able to tell if you are pretending to be someone you are not, nothing sells your self better than honesty coupled with the right amount of confidence.

18 Jan 2013

well there has been changes in my life, im now single and keen to meet. im also gonna be as patient as possible, thanks for all the input. all of u.