Why is it that most single ladies on this site have a profile?they active?but they have no pics?
I'm married but play with consent?I'm willing to exchange pics anytime?but it gets a bit suspect when ladies don't have any pics on their ladies tend to ignore mens profile when looking at it and no pics do they expect us to give them any response when 90% don't even have a pic uploaded?
Like I said just a is still a few legit guys out there you know?
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just a question...
Master of Sex
Well for me I have my feet, cleavage or legs as my pro pic but none of my face. Number one is because i find a little bit of mystery sexy.
Number 2 because i prefer my privacy. I have had weird drama when I have revealed too much on my profile.
So choose to rather exchange details with someone I am interested in and exchange pics then.
I was going to add that next...
I'd even appreciate a blurred out face pic or in your case a pair of feet.I have a fetish for toes so that will be a bonus.
My point something to get the blood flowing you know.
I will from now on make a point to upload some pics of when we started it was all about her fantasies.
Master of Sex
I always say less is more, i like intriguing profiles u know where u want to see and know more. But thats me , others want straight to the point genetalia pics, personally that is a HUGE turn off for me. I skip profiles like that.
You know what even gets to a person more is when the people do not fill in the profile all the way. One this way a person can see if the lady is for real or not. and what i mean by this is they most of the time do not have a pic or they dont even fill in the part of their ethnics
Joyrider
i dont think guys and girls understand each other very well...
Guys NEED the visual often but completely forget to read the write up, and women, not realising this fact, put all the effort into the write up, which mostly the guys dont bother reading. Men, thinking that a) the visual is more important than anything else b) his dick is the only aspect that is important or c)that size matters above all else or d) that his dick is the only part of him that he can be proud of, place ONLY pictures of their dick... seriously we really only want one picture of it , that's it, not a whole gallery and not one of you shooting your load. Unless you're picking up other guys.... then by all means... keep uploading your gallery.
Then when it comes to single girls, they are treated like sluts who are desperate most of the time, a single girl signs up here and it's like chum in the water... so any chick in her right mind isn't going to upload masses of free porn for those porn sharks. On that note, there are literally hundreds of sites for single hookups, swinging is actually about married people so 90% of the girls here are looking for couples. That's why they are here and not on randyrabbits or whatever. This is not a hookup site or a dating site but that is what the vast majority of single guys are looking for and expect from these poor chicks.
And that's why single chicks don't upload lots of pictures
Casanova
I fully agree with LeeEC
This is a swingers site and not a singles hookup. No offence but we tend to forget when we get caught up in the hype of finding others.
Orgasminator
Georgeous must agree on your comment that this is a swingers site but looking at the members list this in a singles hookup site.
And please singles dondt tackle me and tell me i had to fly to hell. I am already in hell
Nope, you boys are on the money - membership DOES look like a singles hookup site, but then unless there is a mechanism to 'clean up' profiles that are inactive and 'weed out' people who are not really swingers, there isn't much we can do about it - unless we come up with a code word that REAL Swingers can add to their write up which means that they have been 'vetted' by a real swinging couple - then only those of us who are 'real swingers' KNOW that that profile belongs to a genuine swinging single and that they have had real swinging encounters, a type of 'secret validation'?
What do you guys think?
Personally a public validation system would help too...
There is certainly space on the profiles for it - what if you could send a 'validation' message to a profile saying that you recommend them that, once the profile holder approved it they could "keep/save" or " display" these validations on their profile?
Would that help guys out?
Casanova
I think it could work. When I have done searches I find so many profiles haven't logged on for more than 90 days. Shouldn't that be changed to a max of 180 days and any profiles that haven't logged on then gets automatically deleted. As this is a free site I see no reason why the profile cannot be deleted by the admin team.
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i dont think guys and girls understand each other very well...
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And that's why single chicks don't upload lots of pictures
"Understand"? maybe ....
In general cavemen don't bother about pictures, they just wanna
make love 
not war! (I'm do not included myself in this generalisation!! 
)Ladies' Inboxes are normally inundated with requests (clean & dirty ones) and it literally take them ladies days to work through all the 'gemors pos'. Then they come to a point (either feeling slutty or like a lady (because of the gentlemanly requests) ..... normally a turning point for most!) and delete all mail to start afresh again ...... and the cycle keep on repeating themselves!
That's why single ladies (I call them the 'extinct species'), especially the 'dating site' experts keep a low profile until after the BEEEEEG rush!
Quote by LeeEC
What do you guys think?
Personally a public validation system would help too...
There is certainly space on the profiles for it - what if you could send a 'validation' message to a profile saying that you recommend them that, once the profile holder approved it they could "keep/save" or " display" these validations on their profile?
Would that help guys out?
I laaik ....... a good recommendation always work 'sexual' wonders!
It's not who you are but who you know that counts!!
Sexpert
i cannot disagree with what was said by everyone , however ,we must remember the original post was not placed by a single post was made by the male of the couple who,, i assume is looking for a single by singles not completing the profile they are not attracting couples as well. i hear what you guys are saying about the vetting system but it does exist...its called word of below everyone's profile is a general notice board of sorts where messages can be left about the profile. i often see comments like "nice pics" or "lets hook up" . i have never seen posts like "this is a fake profile" or" what a great time we had lets do it again..." , which people can regards to removing dormant accounts i think you guys are barking up the wrong site owners need to market this site to advertisers or prospective new members which means registered user numbers need to be once they reach a critical mass we probably will have to start paying for membership as they do in other new members are more likely to pay if numbers are up.
i think in this fast paced express living instant oats eating world we forget that some things turn out best if they are not rushed . i watch enough of those gold mining reality shows to know that you gotta move a lot of dirt to find a few ounces of gold.
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i cannot disagree with what was said by everyone , however ,we must remember the original post was not placed by a single post was made by the male of the couple who,, i assume is looking for a single by singles not completing the profile they are not attracting couples as well. i hear what you guys are saying about the vetting system but it does exist...its called word of below everyone's profile is a general notice board of sorts where messages can be left about the profile. i often see comments like "nice pics" or "lets hook up" . i have never seen posts like "this is a fake profile" or" what a great time we had lets do it again..." , which people can regards to removing dormant accounts i think you guys are barking up the wrong site owners need to market this site to advertisers or prospective new members which means registered user numbers need to be once they reach a critical mass we probably will have to start paying for membership as they do in other new members are more likely to pay if numbers are up.
i think in this fast paced express living instant oats eating world we forget that some things turn out best if they are not rushed . i watch enough of those gold mining reality shows to know that you gotta move a lot of dirt to find a few ounces of gold.
great perspective Ash!
Ash
That what you are talking about at the bottom right hand side of the profile is known as the FRIENDS FEED. what my wife and i do now is make comments on peoples friend feed. like this person never answers mails or once we have meet up with a cpl the we say, this cpl is a nice cpl and they are for real. On this way if we do go into a persons profile we can see if we are wasting our time by sending mails or what. The best part of doing this is everyone can see the comment and they can always contact the person that left the comment to vett the info
Joyrider
What a informative ride
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Ash
That what you are talking about at the bottom right hand side of the profile is known as the FRIENDS FEED. what my wife and i do now is make comments on peoples friend feed. like this person never answers mails or once we have meet up with a cpl the we say, this cpl is a nice cpl and they are for real. On this way if we do go into a persons profile we can see if we are wasting our time by sending mails or what. The best part of doing this is everyone can see the comment and they can always contact the person that left the comment to vett the info
Joyrider
What a informative ride
Thx, Joyrider!
Good idea - I actually opened the Comments and updated my profile by inviting peeps to write a comment!
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Georgeous must agree on your comment that this is a swingers site but looking at the members list this in a singles hookup site.
And please singles dondt tackle me and tell me i had to fly to hell. I am already in hell
Ok... This has gone way off topic, started with pics and ended up with this being a swingers site and not a dating site??? So I have something to add. There are many swinger sites, most of which clearly do not allow singles to join, or may join but at a membership fee. This may be "primarily" a swingers site but not exclusively, otherwise singles will not be allowed membership - not so? Take facebook for example: The site started for the sole purpose of connecting old and lost friends and family. It is now many years later, a social networking site. The owners of the site obviously do not mind that is has expanded to that. With SH, I think the similar is happening. Started as a swingers site, now people are seeing it as a free hook-up site. I for one love it! Almost every other site (like this) promises "free" registration... Not so free after registering when you try to send or read a message. Also easy pickings for scammers where SH is actually "on-the-ball" when it comes to weeding out the fakers and scammers. SH is fun, real, interesting, esculating in popularity, good "success" rate, etc... - and it is 100% FREE! Singles will continue to join here in their endless quest for NSA sex!
