After almost 2.5 years on the site here we have seen a lot couples coming and going. I don't know if it is right to say that the site has grown in a fantasy site and not in a swinger site. It is not anymore the big family with the same interest, more like a train station with people passing by. The chat became a clique from fantasy seeker (at least in the day time) what can not even greet back when some one says hello. A personal message on a profile is usually ignored or answered with a friend request. We are missing the times when people actually made dates in the chat and sorted out the fakes and school kids without the help of any mods. Where do we go with the site? Where are the genuine couple?
We met many couples and also remain friends with them, but the majority of our friends left the site for good because of the mentioned reasons above. We as German are known as stubborn and don't give easy up on things. But we also don't want to become like fisherman what hope of the "big one". In that case a genuine couple.
Never thought of it that way but you are correct and I am most probably part of it
On one thing i must agree on Newbie6576, this is no more a swinger site and who to blame can be argue for days. He mention a fantacy site but go and read the pease of mind of Leec on people tread other people in a way thats not very nice.
I will and for that will be crusfied again but this became a single site for man that have nothing to do with swinging, came and looked to the personals wich i do every morning, to help Noble with e-mail adresse and wrongfully adds, and 90% of the new profile are single men, and the worse going and read there adds.
Yes there are a place for every one in this beautiful worl of ours, but there also a place for every site what it stands for.
There where and would be in the future long discussions on whats the meaning of swinging but a quick fuck shall never be a reason for swinging.
I made it my work to answer each and every mail send to my inbox and if anyone on this site can give me the evidence that i was unpolite or cruel to them i will also say goodbye to the site. But on the other hand the answer receiving back are not to mention here.
I asked and mean it Admin must come to the rescue of this site, to give compitant people the power to give back to the site for what it stands for, SWINGING.
Telling us it happend on all the other sites aswell are not good enough.
Tell them to put their money where their mouth is.
I would gladly pay a fee to be a serious member of this site, would you?
Yes i wouldt also pay to have a well regulated site
I will also pay .............
If people that are real contact you... and you reply with not interested without even chatting .....?
thats what happened to us....
Then its time to go
Maybe a review system could work, like YouTube with a like/dislike ratio
Hey everyone...
I guess you all noticed that I been quiet... 50% because I been busy as hell and 50% because of what is being discussed here...
I log on occationally with the usual hope (pipe dream) of an inbox full of messages and replies to my messages... Only to find the very rare occational "1 new message", which is usually a bi male, gay male or "sorry, you smoke... My profile is viewed plenty, but thats where it stays! 99% of my contact messages are ignored and the other 1% ends after a few chats. It is not me, promise... I am as decent and respectful as they come. I am the guy your mother wanted you to marry! But still just waste my megs logging on...
The elusive "meet" never happens! Everybody curious - nobody serious!! And what gets me is the fact arranging a meet does not mean guaranteed sex. A quick coffee at the nearest Mug n Bean would not do any harm... You don't like what you see, say good bye and move on - you like, then head home and bang!! SIMPLE!!!
So yes, this site is becoming (or has become) a laptop screen from which people live the fantasy behind! Swinging is only swinging when there is actually some form of sexual activity involved... Discussing it, perusing the idea, or browsing these sites is NOT swinging!
My advice to those who browse and fantisize: Introduce yourself, chat a bit to be sure it's not Hannibal Lecter on the other end, arrange a genuine meet in a public place, chat some more to assess character... Then make a choice, leave together or leave alone... It's not rocket science people - it's sex!!
Hi to all. Our sentiments completely. We have almost come to the conclusion that 99% of people on the site get their thrill from just browsing and are just not interested in a "get together for a coffee/drinks". As newbees on the site we have also become very disillusioned with the non-response of most members. General chatting and messaging seems to play a part but eish....when it comes to arranging a meeting, members simply show no interest. Lets hope this forum is read by all. Have a great day.
I don't know...
We regularly chat with people on the site, and we do our best efforts to arrange a meet. Our biggest issue is that we are relatively busy people, and so are the people we are interested in... so finding a time when we are all available has been our biggest obstacle.
We try to always reply to legitimate messages, even if it is with a no-thanks.
If it is obvious that they have not read our profile... then we ignore the message, because frankly why must we take the time to respond when someone clearly hasn't taken the time to read our profile.
We also do not respond to people who randomly send us friend requests without a simple "hello" message; or to people who send us invites to their private albums without any conversation prior to that.
In conclusion, we have had quite a few meet 'n greets, as well as some playdates... I guess perseverance and making sure there is at least a mental connection before meeting up has been why we domeet the people we meet?
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C
We agree with KC...
We are only on online on the site on the weekends as, during the week we are busy with life's little "have-to's" eg work, chores etc
We have met quite a few people through this site and have made some really good friends (with benefits)! The chat room is an awesome way to meet new folk and we regularly pop in for a chat....some of the folk with whom we chat to, in the chat room, are too far away to arrange any kind of coffee/meet anytime soon, however, we have exchanged tel nos and they have become online friends who we hope to meet at some future date.
Swinging has different "levels/types" and we believe that this site caters to all: from hard-core (orgy style, don't know your name - just wanna have sex) to soft swing /just being chat buddies online because we are like-minded.
WELL DONE TO SH.....WE LOVE THIS SITE!!!
PS: should it become a paying site, we would gladly pay! There are some profiles which are "fake" and a paying site would assist in eradicating the aforementioned profiles.
Cant see how it can be regulated, I had some success but mostly no shows and have to live with it
On the other hand have fhasd a lot of fun in the forae
iSo would paying change anything, don't think so, try Adult Friend Finder and see if there is any differance
