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is it normal or something to be careful of
It is difficult to say with out the couples input.
I would suggest the gent tells her to find him the lady she wants him to have sex with, JUST in case he goes out and finds someone and she feels betrayed.
Once the lady is found all 3 of them can sit down and talk about this fantasy of hers and then only decide what is going to happen durning the interlude and what is to happen afterwards.
This lady could be honest in her fantasy I would not know....
BUT me being VERY paranoid if my lovey did this out of the blue and we were vanilla and one of us not into the scene.
I would worry if the lady is insecure and not sure about herself and her sexuality or her marriage.
Now my paranoia..
1) Could be she wants to see if he find someone and how long it took him....*okay so he is cheating on me* will be my first thought if I was the woman.
2) If he found a lady sexier than his wife...a BIG no-no...will make her feel very inadequate
3)If he enjoys the sex with the other lady...also BIG problems.....
4) If the lady wants some foreplay like cunnilingus and he does not usually do it for his wife......welllllll......
5) Afterwards she might blame him...and this might make for a good divorce issues.
That is why I say she has to do the work,seeking someone.....and she will have to direct the play session and join in....
I only know if a lady would approach me for such a fantasy and I find her insecure, I will most certainly say no...soooooo I wish her good luck in her search to find someone.
Orgasminator
This is why glad I'm not married. Granted I need to learn to talk to a lady first before I'm allowed to enter the spectator event "things my spouse said last night" but for now I'm happy here on the fence.
With regards to the question at hand, I'm siding with the pretty and clever lady in the boots. Don't take it too fast, any results made could be used to fuel a future fire. Either work together or let her take the lead but I think jumping the gun on your side could be seen as unnecessary excitement.
Warming the Bed
I wrote a whole story in the stories section kinda explaining how our 3sum came along. Well to make a long, very long, story short. We didn't really pick someone. It just happened. The only part I really played was letting the Mrs make the first move. We were all in the lounge after a long party night in winter and while I played with the Mrs, her hands kinda snuck their way over to our 3rd party. Since our 3rd party was a vanilla I didn't wanna make someone who was sleeping over uncomfortable. Well it happened and it was great but what made it better was the fact that I knew we had spoken about it and the fact that the Mrs made the first move. It put me at ease. Communication is your only choice. Without it, you are taking risks.
It is difficult to say with out the couples input.
I would suggest the gent tells her to find him the lady she wants him to have sex with, JUST in case he goes out and finds someone and she feels betrayed.
Once the lady is found all 3 of them can sit down and talk about this fantasy of hers and then only decide what is going to happen durning the interlude and what is to happen afterwards.
I would suggest the gent tells her to find him the lady she wants him to have sex with, JUST in case he goes out and finds someone and she feels betrayed.
Once the lady is found all 3 of them can sit down and talk about this fantasy of hers and then only decide what is going to happen durning the interlude and what is to happen afterwards.
well it can happen and be fun if all agree to it
