So here's a new topic ....
Is it important to you that the couple/person that you are swinging with is in good physical shape? I'm not talking gym bunnies, but at least physically fit and relatively slim .... or are you happy that they might be carrying a couple of extra kilo's as long as there is a connection with them??
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Is being in good shape important
Sex God
Quote by Oceana
So here's a new topic ....
Is it important to you that the couple/person that you are swinging with is in good physical shape? I'm not talking gym bunnies, but at least physically fit and relatively slim .... or are you happy that they might be carrying a couple of extra kilo's as long as there is a connection with them??
As long as the people are hygienic, carrying a little extra kilo's is of no real relevance to me. It is more about the person / people's vibe and personality,
Orgasminator
Myself het geen probleem met mense wat mollig is nie, ons eie ondervinding is hoe skraler die persoon, hoe groter is die eie waan.
Ek kon ook nog nie agterkom dat postuur iets te doen het met swinging, het as ou Mod baie fotos goedgekeur en dit was geen kriteria nie.
Ek stem saam met SDMR "As long as the people are hygienic, carrying a little extra kilo's is of no real relevance to me. It is more about the person / people's vibe and personality."
I would think most people prefer a slimmer and fit person to play with, as the positions one can do the dirty in is unlimited!!!!
But sadly
HERE I fall down the rabbits hole again....I am not only unfit, BUT OLD and also carry a lot of lard around in places that put people right of off me....most people will not look at me and see me as a person....NOPE, I am just that old fat woman!!!
NO wonder I never get any sex anymore....*hier sit ek droe bek....en groei weer `n sening van `n hymen.*
sooooooo sad......
Orgasminator
Pib jy jok mos as jy dit se
Sexlightened
Same PIB I'll come and rescue you!
To be honest.. I do think that these days I tend toward more fitter healthier types...
But I should say this - At my heaviest (before I got into the lifestyle or my marriage) used to be about 25 kgs heavier.
When I look back and think about the track record of the people I've been attracted to, ALWAYS there was a "connection"
But as I've lost weight, trimmed down and (most importantly) changed my lifestyle and MADE a greater effort in keeping in good shape, the more effort I make, the better shape I am in, the more specific my "like" has been for people who show evidence of the same level of effort in regard to their 'shape' or health and fitness.
I'm not really attracted to the gym-bunny type, over muscly or extra stringy, wiry, pumped and the artificial tan look is actually quite unappealing to me.
If one can see that a person is trying to keep healthy and fit.... Well that's good enough for me - coz that is what I'm willing to offer them.. 
Quote by Pussinboots1
I would think most people prefer a slimmer and fit person to play with, as the positions one can do the dirty in is unlimited!!!!
But sadly
HERE I fall down the rabbits hole again....I am not only unfit, BUT OLD and also carry a lot of lard around in places that put people right of off me....most people will not look at me and see me as a person....NOPE, I am just that old fat woman!!!
NO wonder I never get any sex anymore....*hier sit ek droe bek....en groei weer `n sening van `n hymen.*
sooooooo sad......
PIB im in the same boat as you , just a fat old guy , how ever i have found an amazing girl who accepts me for who i am , and to us hygiene is the most important thing , lots of soap and water before any play
but for the two of us we are more focused on the person / couple and look to make a connection before anything happens
Just a thought:
When I was taught shapes, a circle was also a shape.
So the comment could be that round is also a shape
I know I'm shaped like a square: by that I mean just like the hippies used to say, square = boring (shaped).
But just remember, a square fits nicely in a box (and even translated into afrikaans, that could work too :P )
I know I'm shaped like a square: by that I mean just like the hippies used to say, square = boring (shaped).
But just remember, a square fits nicely in a box (and even translated into afrikaans, that could work too :P ) 
:lol: :lol: :lol:Quote by Oceana
So here's a new topic ....
Is it important to you that the couple/person that you are swinging with is in good physical shape? I'm not talking gym bunnies, but at least physically fit and relatively slim .... or are you happy that they might be carrying a couple of extra kilo's as long as there is a connection with them??
A few extra kilo's is no biggie really. Of course, there are limits but on the whole it's the connection that matters most.
Well, to us anyway
Master of Sex
It is very nice being with a guy thats ripped or works out i love the "v" in groin area! But hey i am a big chick havent had issues. I suppose it depends on what u like everyone has a preference , some dont and its all bout the chemistry. Attraction makes playtime amazing regardless off persons body.
To be honest, Guys I think everyone wants to enjoy play with someone who is able to move and not wobble all over the place.
But the truth is,some of us (I include myself here) is wobbly all over..... think of jelly , if you prod that jelly it jiggles and wobbles around...well that is how I look when being *prodded*...
Being in the *older* generation group also does not diminish me or makes me sexless.
But that DOES not take away my sexuality...or my naughty mindset or my own sensualness ....I believe myself to being an erotic person,thus to me I am .
Anyone who is not comfortable with me should move on. just as I will move on if I am not comfy with someone.
Connection is a great part of sexuality.
Master of Sex
Quote by Pussinboots1
To be honest, Guys I think everyone wants to enjoy play with someone who is able to move and not wobble all over the place.
But the truth is,some of us (I include myself here) is wobbly all over..... think of jelly , if you prod that jelly it jiggles and wobbles around...well that is how I look when being *prodded*...
Being in the *older* generation group also does not diminish me or makes me sexless.
But that DOES not take away my sexuality...or my naughty mindset or my own sensualness ....I believe myself to being an erotic person,thus to me I am .
Anyone who is not comfortable with me should move on. just as I will move on if I am not comfy with someone.
Connection is a great part of sexuality.
i havent seen what u look like and already think u sexy PIB. There are men (and women) out there that love jelly so those that dont like can move along , they blocking the ones that do i have always been approached first by men and again women before my skinny, fit looking friends and i am big chick again it depends what person is attracted to.
We are not the gym bunny types despite our visits to the gym...
We do try to take care of ourselves, even if it doesn't look like it.
So we understand how difficult it is to 'look good'
As PIB and Softiskitty have said, the connection is most important.
For all the people that we have considered meeting and more; there has been a connection of sort.
When people make contact with us, it is almost always me (Mrs C) who is on the other side of the computer. Those who talk to me as a person and not as a warm-penis-holder, have much more chance of a meet ever happening. I generally stop conversing with people who treat me as a warm-penis-holder... No matter how good they look in their pictures!
;)
C
Master of Sex
Lol @Mrs C that is the pefect description "warm penis holder" lol so im not alone and im not fussy, connection good makes the sex intense and better
I like to play with sum1 who can hold their own. So its not about fitness or being ripped, but can u move ur body in the right way and kedp going for a while. Dont want the lady to have a heart attack if wenget very active...and sometimes fast and hard heavy breathing occurs....
But with that said. I have been with bbws who r more than capable of keeping up, so its not always abt ripped bodies...
Master of Sex
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I like to play with sum1 who can hold their own. So its not about fitness or being ripped, but can u move ur body in the right way and kedp going for a while. Dont want the lady to have a heart attack if wenget very active...and sometimes fast and hard heavy breathing occurs....
But with that said. I have been with bbws who r more than capable of keeping up, so its not always abt ripped bodies...
thats so true some of us BBWs are fit n flexi. And some ripped bodies cant keep up or lack stamina. Once they get in its "pop goes the weasel" lol i prefer the pringle logo "once u pop u cant stop" haha
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When people make contact with us, it is almost always me (Mrs C) who is on the other side of the computer. Those who talk to me as a person and not as a warm-penis-holder, have much more chance of a meet ever happening. I generally stop conversing with people who treat me as a warm-penis-holder... No matter how good they look in their pictures!
;)
C
Had to smile when reading this part, I have a gr8 single gent whom I love chatting to in the chat room. We have never had some *dirty* talks, discussed sex and positions and the like but not the *normal* phone sex type of chats. The other evening he commented to me that another lady asked him outright if he actually is gay because he behaves himself and does not do the normal *come on to her* chat as most singles do!
As for the topic...yes I luuurve looking at sexy men and woman.....but then what maybe *sexy* to me is *gross* to another.
Hygiene is a must, but further a connection yes. Also a bit of self-respect goes a long way since if you don't respect yourself and your own body, even if it *wobbles* a bit, how can you respect others?
Casanova
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As for the topic...yes I luuurve looking at sexy men and woman.....but then what maybe *sexy* to me is *gross* to another.
Hygiene is a must, but further a connection yes. Also a bit of self-respect goes a long way since if you don't respect yourself and your own body, even if it *wobbles* a bit, how can you respect others?
I fully agree. I have been with skinny, well built and the bbw type. It is all about a connection between each other.
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It is very nice being with a guy thats ripped or works out i love the "v" in groin area! But hey i am a big chick havent had issues. I suppose it depends on what u like everyone has a preference , some dont and its all bout the chemistry. Attraction makes playtime amazing regardless off persons body.
You're right of course, attraction can completely trump physical preferences
