I was hoping to get some feedback from you married couples out there but I'm uncertain if I am going to be able to express myself clearly on this.
How exactly do couples initiate sex ? It is planned ? Expected ? Or built up ?
When I expect it and it doesn't happen I get pissed off so my wife suggested 'planned days' but this also doesn't work for me as ssince we have kids - "nothing can be planned" furthermore I feel its just boring as you know what to expect and when.
As for the little nudge or the caress etc while in bed - the moment my wifes head hits the pillow she's out!! Only to wake up at two or three in the morning and rub her naked body over mine and tell me she's horny!
Problem is - I love my sleep! And being woken up at three even if it is for a little something something, I can be a bit crabby! So there is another problem ! "I'm not being romantic or sensual"
So how do couples initiate that special moment ? What signs does one look for ?