I read the forums and some is very informative, others less so , and some just plain useless . Many many is dedicated to bitching about single males .
So here's a fun idea *if it's allowed I'm not sure* how about posting a hall of fame ? Couples post the best singles they played with here . Most couples do or have played with single guys that does not form part of the stereotype. Why not share lol . We and many other couples would love to meet them .....
Yes but as you say . It's overlooked. Most people don't even bother to verify or vouch . This post has been on here a while and no couples even commented . It's sad that when there is a post complaining about singles every one has something to say. But when in this case we try to encourage positive feedback..... Those same people remain silent.....
I think everyone thinking about exploring the swinging lifestyle should first watch the series "Swing" which was aired on the playboy channel. That should already sort out a lot of problems.
But seriously, if everyone started respecting each other as individuals and stopped using SH as the counter of a meat market then we all could live in harmony and not have need for something like a hall of fame. Yes yes, only in utopia i know, but it is worth dreaming about 
@midcoup, we also asked the same question a while ago, and it was shot down. on a different swinging site, it was most welcomed, and they even posted the good ones names on the topics. butttttt. whats good for me, wont be necessarily good for you. but yes, one can surely just state that the guy has manners and is respectful.
Just a word of caution... this site has a VERY strict policy about the issue of "Name and Shame" - which we will shut down immediately... It is just too subject to the possibility of manipulation and abuse. And this idea of a public "Name and Fame" gets a little too close to that concept for my liking - there is the strong possibility that some unscrupulous member could start "shaming" instead...
The verification facility IS well suited to what you are looking for. And more people should make use of it. Request people that you have met to verify you if you believe they will give you a good reference, and verify others! And then contact the verifiers through a private mail to check if you want a reference to someone's character or ability. That way it stays out of the public arena... And accept that different people have different tastes, and maybe different standards against which to critique their playmates... At the end of the day, nothing beats a preliminary "meet and greet" and a good chat over a cappuccino or a cold beer / glass of wine, to enable you to assess the likelihood of compatibility.
yep. you never can win.
on the verifying topic redbruce, it is only a little while now that the verifying is actually working. there has to be some better way of stating that this couple or guy or girl is the real deal. we have met numerous couples and guys, but no one seems to bother with making the effort to just click a button.
@lizaan - send a PM to the folks you have met with and ask them to verify you... you'll probably find that people just don't think about verification after an event, but I am sure they would happily verify if asked to. I certainly have done that for anyone I have met who has requested it, and have now gone back and done some "unrequested" verifying of folks I know, after reading this thread. We're seeing a noticeable increase in the number of verifications that need authorisation every morning.
@Midcoup - unfortunately not every one on this site is as well-meaning as you guys obviously are. Members have in the past viciously labelled and disparaged other members (and totally without justification - usually because of a rejection of their pushy advances!), hence the strict policy regarding Name and Shame. But there is nothing to prevent you giving folks you have met with, either good or poor reviews through the medium of PMs, where it is not in the public view, in private discussion with other members.
We would like to thank those who participated in this topic . We are glad to hear that verification is on the rise . If anything positive comes from public discussion it's a good thing. We hope that more people come forward with interesting and positive topics . It all helps keep SH great .
Here is a question to redbruce, How can the mods have final say over a verification? What are the criteria for allowing or disallowing a verification? Sorry it is two questions. I am just curious.
I know that it is supposed to be an "authorisation", but it really is just a formality, clicking to allow it to be posted. We have no way of confirming or disputing a verification, so they all just get approved... certainly in my case they do, and I am not aware of any mod ever disallowing a verification
