Forum Virgin
Hi All
I came across this on reddit and thought I would share it here its interesting on many levels I think it was specifically written about hotwifing but I think its appropriate to all single men and their approach :
I've been talking to so many couples and wives that are at their wit’s end with trying to find a third and it’s ruining the fantasy for some people. I can't have that happening because I love hotwives and I love hearing about all the details and how much fun everyone is I can only speak for myself but I think at least a few folks would agree with the following….
You need to keep in mind that you gentlemen who call yourselves bulls (or thirds,lovers,fwb, whatever) are an addition…an extra… an added bonus for us couples. Many couples see this as role-play and fantasy fulfillment so when we go looking for guys to add to the mix we generally have high expectations. Of course those expectations are unique to each couple so I'm not saying not to throw your hat in the ring but…BUT…before you do ask yourself this…
If I were married and I loved & treasured my wife so much that I want her to experience pleasures that most women never have the chance to…I love her so much that I want all amazing experiences for her…I want her to have her sexual freedom to explore and seek out highly satisfying sexual experiences with amazing men that will appreciate and value her company as much as I do….
would I let her fuck someone like me?
Would I want her to respond to a message like what I’m sending?
Or would I think that guy is a jerk and I hope my wife doesn't want to meet him…
Would you rather your -future pretend- wife enthusiastically responds to something along the lines of:
Hi I’m a 27 year old professional who’s drug & std free. I came across your posts and pictures and have been in awe of your beauty and I just had to get in touch in hopes of getting to know each other better. I’ve always been drawn to open minded couples and I really enjoy the dynamic of a hotwife couple and the possibility of joining in on this fantasy is a huge turn on for me. A little about me: I have all these amazing hobbies like: rescuing puppies from burning buildings; I run ‘help an old lady cross the street’ volunteer organization. I work out 6 days a week by teaching inner city kids how to master every sport. I spend my time helping people and improving myself physically and mentally. I’m lucky in that I’m well-endowed and have just enough practice to know exactly what I’m doing while understanding that every woman is different. I aim to please and would be thrilled to get to know you each better and know how I could fit into making your fantasies a reality. I'm respectful of all boundaries and can go at whatever pace you’re comfortable and should you choose to include me I'd love to arrange everything so that you two can fully enjoy yourselves and not stress over the details. I've attached 6,808 clear face and body photos that are all very recent. If I’m not your type then that’s ok, I understand attraction and chemistry are very important. I wish you all the best in finding what you're looking for. If that’s me just know that I would be honored to share your wife and make sure that everyone is happy and satisfied throughout our time together.
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Hey, you’re wife looks like a perfect slut. I'd love to have a go at her and show her how a real man can fuck and stretch her pussy like she never imagined. If you need a pic I can send you a dick pic before I come over tie her up and bang her so hard and fast she won’t walk for days. Text me and let me know when we set something up. Also I can’t host (wife doesn't know I'm playing) and I don't like guys around so get a hotel room close by and have her waiting for me to show her a good time. Until them send me some nasty pics of her covered in cum…especially her face so I can practice how I’ll cover her.
Yeah...so since that second one is pretty much straight from my inbox (I had to fix the spelling b/c you know every other word in those kind of messages is misspelled). Step up your game gentlemen! Even I've given up on looking for guys because the search is just too frustrating…and I'm kind of a slut who actively seeks out cock so if it’s annoying to me (I have the patience of a fucking saint) then I can guarantee you're scaring off a lot of couples.
Hotwives are people too!
We’re not sex objects and we’re not sex idols; we’re completely normal regular women…housewives, doctors, mothers, professionals, etc… We’re normal people and there’s really no reason to chat us up like we’re submissive whores who are dying to fuck anyone willing. Trust me, that’s not the case. It seems like half the messages fall into these two mindsets:
• Idols: There’s no need to be so massively intimidated by a married woman that you bail at the last minute because you've built us up in your head so much and now you're intimidated and too nervous to meet. We’re not your sexual teachers; our sole purpose is not to fulfill your milf/cougar fantasies. I don’t have any secret hotwife training that makes me better, crazier or different in bed with you than anyone else would be. We’re not necessarily more interesting or easier to get along with just because we're hotwives.I see the appeal of finding a sexually explorative lady to spend some time with and we generally are a little more open minded than most but it doesn't make us gurus of sex and all things kinky. I’m not lady Godiva prancing naked through town just because I have a little openness in my marriage. I may be open minded and engage in casual sex and call myself a hotwife but that’s certainly not all that I am. Being a hotwife is a fantasy fulfillment thing, not an identity. There’s no need for the pedestals and red carpets and in truth when you tell us of your ridiculously high expectations it can be intimidating for us ladies.
• The slut wife mentality: We're not sex crazed bored housewives that will fuck anything and anyone who hubby parades through the door. Being a hotwife also shouldn’t imply that I’m looking to fulfill more kinks and fetishes…sometimes being a hotwife is the kink and that’s all we're looking for. Like I said before we're normal women and like being treated as such. Assuming that because we're open to the idea of casual sex we’re also hyper sexual whores who want to be used is just too far of a jump. Start treating us like any other woman you'd hit in, introduce yourself to, take home, bed, fuck etc…Speak to us like normal people and try to stay away from extremes and assumptions.
