A while back I was able to put my bi curiosity to the test. The lady of the couple we were playing with at the time had said she was also bit curios so during play I gave her some eish! I felt like a fumbling school boy who had no clue what he was doing!
Yes our lady parts in anatomy is the same and I am sure most ladies would agree though in general the same spots feel nice BUT we each have our preferred *spot* which is that extra nice….
Now how in the name of all that is erotic am I supposed to know that *spot* if you don't guide me!?!?!
I mean a simply mmm or ahhh when I'm hitting the spot would assist don't just lay there like a living blow up doll!! Heck even a straight forward *little higher, bit left* would do! O well maybe she just was bit nervous, never did get a second chance to try it again with that particular lady since they moved away.
Did get a second chance with another couple and this time was little better, at least I got more of a reaction from her to guide me and what fun :giggle:
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Hi Mrs E.
I read this with interest. what a pity the first time was a little of a floppy, but first times sorta sometimes turn out that if the ladies involved is only in the experimenting phase and Not sure how to proceed and the other is not really sure she likes it or did not say if your gallant effort was returned or not.
Glad you liked the second encounter.
Me, I am fully pan-sexual as everyone by now know.
When I am invited to introduce a lady to the sensuality of her bi-side, if she is so inclined.I like to do a little preparation for her to show her that I love what I do and I love the effects she is going to feel (hopefully)SOME ladies are JUST not bi-sexually inclined and soon KNOW that when another touches her in a sexual way.
I usually light candles,have special oils on hand, some soft pillows and warm fluffy towels and yeah the music is important to me,so I do make the area we are going to venture in a little more attractive than just a bed and rumpled sheets and a sweaty HORNY man watching us.
Introducing her to the art of a sensual bath/ envelope her in a fluffy gown and then placed on a prepared bed/mattress/carpet.
Gently holding her hands and introduce her to an easy method of relaxing mode of breathing,shortly telling her what is going to do so nothing comes as a surprise,ask for her guidance in her groans and sighs as I*play* with her body.
Gently lay her down and let her watch if so inclined but she can also just close her eyes and enjoy.
Then proceed to gently give her a few minutes of soft all over massage before going out and starting a soft breast massage, as Many women know their breasts in sexuality only as an object of male interest. Therefore the breasts are often compared to the ideals shown in magazines, and belittled.
Awakening and sensitizing the breasts is extremely important,bring attention and consciousness to the breast,massaging her breast makes the heart touched and opened.
Doing all of the above ,I have created a space for the woman in which to relax, from which she can more easily enter a state of high arousal and experience great pleasure from her first bisexual experience .
I myself will experience the joy of giving pleasure and witnessing a special moment.
I move down to the her genitals and start the yoni massage( you all can go google on how to do this)
The goal of the Yoni massage is not solely to achieve orgasm, although orgasm is often a pleasant and a welcome side effect.
Specially if I incorporate a cunnilingus ,firstly relax the genital area or the yoni as it is part of what I do.
A good method of beginning the relaxation process is by kissing the clitoral hood and along the labial folds.
Lick along the edges of the labial folds, but do not push your tongue into the vaginal opening.
Pull on the labial lips by grasping them with your lips.
Pull, then release the right and left lip repeatedly.
As the women begins to relax she will gradually become aroused.
Her arousal will increase in a gradual manner and it`s essential understand and note what is most pleasurable for her.
Every woman does not respond equally to the same stimulation.
Finding out what pleases her will be a matter of trial and error.
Her body language will serve as a guide to understanding what she most desires, but if in doubt to sure to also communicate verbally with your partner.
It`s important to remember that the woman may prefer *sucking* over *licking*. While others like to be *nibbled*,why not try all three.
Some women prefer direct licking of the surface of clitoris, while others may find the stimulation too intense.
Many women are particularly fond of simultaneous oral and G-spot massage (by finger).
Accessing the crown jewel* the clitoris*.
After sufficient stimulation the clitoris will become enlarged and erect in a similar to the male`s penis.
Since most of clitoris is hidden inside the body one cannot see the full effect of the erection in most women.
However it`s possible to kiss, lick or suck the head of the clitoris.
Oral sex should be mutually enjoyed, not only by the receiver but by the *giver*.
You will find great satisfaction in providing incredible pleasure, but also gaining the unique ability of tuning into the ladies most private erogenous zone.
It`s extremely important that you not rush through the process and overwhelm the yoni`s pleasure receptors.
You should always proceed in a deliberate, step-by-step manner which will allow the lady to enjoy every individual sensation to its maximum level.
By then you can start playing with her g-spot and massage her little butt insert a few fingers vaginally (she will most likely beg you by now)and even a finger into her little butt hole if she allows it.
Now the above is not the only ways to introduce a lady to the joys of bisexual pleasures, but with time and practice anyone can do a variety of things to make W/W play sensational.
When all is done and over, make SURE you cuddle with your lady friend afterwards , No speaking is needed, just holding her will allow her to NOT feel rejected by you, should you just think she might just want to relax back, without you.
These few minutes of holding and cuddling is VERY VERY important.
Ermmmmmm Sorry for taking over your forum Mrs E.
Errr... I'm not sure about the cuddling thing = the LAST thing I want is to be cuddled... then again no one is 'introducing' me to bi-sexual play... so maybe that's what makes the difference? Mind you I didn't WANT to be cuddled by the person who did introduce me either...
We do do this sort of body on body thing... but it's not so anyone won't feel rejected 
It's usually just a pause between sessions :)
maybe it's best to start by making it the NORM to TALK about what everyone wants before you start?
It's usually just a pause between sessions :)
maybe it's best to start by making it the NORM to TALK about what everyone wants before you start? 
Warming the Bed
Great post PIB with great advice (as always). Something everyone can learn from and improve
Lee You are correct.
When swinger couples are at play, there is no time for all the fussy preparations of the introduction to bisexual contact between two ladies,it sort of just happen and all first times is usually by trail and error,if both are uncertain on what they are doing.
I myself was *introduced* to my own kind of sexuality in the same way.
You have noticed that I said *when I am asked to introduce a lady to her Bi-side*
To me that means NO play for me, I am just doing the *introduction* all though I DO love what I do(also mentioned)
I myself will always be wearing a sarong never be completely naked
Sometimes It is good to ask for such a guidance from a full out self confessed bisexual lady.
As sensualist, I love doing a little more than just jumping in and doing cunnilingus when I introduce a lady to her bi-side.
I have found over time that the really NON bisexually inclined ladies can not even go through my sensual ritual to it is there and then We then both can withdraw with out her feeling that part also indicates if I will just do a yoni massage or go full out and do *everything*
And as a yoni massage can sometimes be very overwhelming for some ladies, it is good to cuddle afterwards.
Sometimes ladies comes alone,sometimes they ask their hubbies to be present which is also allowed.
Knowing how to do a yoni massage will help any lady who does not know a thing about woman on woman play,even for all first part I am telling about a cunnilingus just to indicate that even men does not realize there is more to a cunnilingus than thrusting their tongue into the vagina in a sexual thrusting way.
PIB! I always love the way you express these things!
Mrs E! My very first bi experience was very similar to what you have written here! I felt completely weirded out!
My second experience was much more pleasurable for me as the *giver*, but she was not the most vocal of ladies... and I can only assume I was doing ok, because of the moaning.... But she never commented, nor did she return the favour - But it was not expected, as she was there to enjoy K more than me.... ;)
Although I am very much attracted to other woman, I have not had the pleasure of having many W/W reciprocal experiences... yet! I am sure that the more I practice... and the more we communicate... the better lover I will become :twisted:
;)
C
@ PiB no problem take over 
always nice to learn from the more experienced!
Yes I did receive some in return the first time, and it sure felt like she had done it before since she was way better than some guys I've met with her tongue 
The second lady also does not mind receiving oral from ladies but prefer not to give and in that play session I was not really planning to but in the fun it happen.
I also did not mind that I did not receive any the second time since I have found that I love giving oral more than receiving it, no matter from whom really.
Maybe someday when we find a elusive unicorn who are also bi curious I will definitely have to refer back to this nice sensual way of play. But till then it will mostly be in couples situation where us ladies discuss beforehand who are and are not interested in any W/W play.
always nice to learn from the more experienced!
Yes I did receive some in return the first time, and it sure felt like she had done it before since she was way better than some guys I've met with her tongue The second lady also does not mind receiving oral from ladies but prefer not to give and in that play session I was not really planning to but in the fun it happen.
I also did not mind that I did not receive any the second time since I have found that I love giving oral more than receiving it, no matter from whom really.
Maybe someday when we find a elusive unicorn who are also bi curious I will definitely have to refer back to this nice sensual way of play. But till then it will mostly be in couples situation where us ladies discuss beforehand who are and are not interested in any W/W play. 
Master of Sex
Ok so couple years ago I played with a female, I like kissing aslong as the persons a good kisser so I've kissed a lot of chicks in my time. This however was the first time I got really close to a girl, things got intense and well there she was spread "bald" eagle but I just couldn't - to me her vagina was scary lol not that there was anything wrong with it. Just I didn't know what to do or how to do it and when she wanted to go down I just couldn't allow her. Was self conscious and afraid I'm not sure of what. I felt awkward touching her and having a nipple in my mouth was weird. Sigh guess I'm strictly dickly. BUT I enjoyed giving her pleasure using my hands and kissing so maybe that's where I will stick for now.
What would have been nice is also to know if I was doing a good job cos I know how I like to be touched but when u touch another women its different,feels more delicate was scared I was gonna hurt her cos I had long nails lol.
PIB- I am not a huge fan of receiving oral but whoa after I read your post I need to change my undis phew
Firstly, this is Nimfie :2fingers:
I'm the silent partner of this duo when it comes to the forum. This topic however is of great interest to me.
My 1st experience with another woman was before we were married, but we were already a couple. I found myself incredibly attracted to a bi (turned out to be lesbian) girl in the town we lived in. We had a party at our house and the two of us were standing around the corner chatting and before I knew what hit me, she pushed me up against the wall and kissed the hell out of me! I loved it! We had several encounters, which was amazing. She must have read up on yoni massage PIB, she definitely knew how :smitten: I loved going down on her, she tasted divine, sweet as honey. She taught me quite a few tricks and from there on a was hooked on girl on girl action.
I didn't have much opportunity for girl play until we joined the lifestyle. It is still the most exciting part of play for me. It is so different than playing with a man and it's those differences that is such a huge turn on, soft lips, soft skin, delicious curves. I love exploring a woman's body, touching, teasing, kissing every part of her. Sometimes getting her to react to my touch in a way that surprises her and her partner. For us it makes for excellent foreplay and to give the women a chance to reach quite a few orgasms. I normally know with the 1st kiss if the lady is into girl on girl play and from there I just take my time and ask as I go along if it feels good, but I normally get enough reaction I do think that if you just relax and lose yourself in the feeling, you are halfway there.
And yes practice makes perfect, so don't give up 
I do think that if you just relax and lose yourself in the feeling, you are halfway there.
And yes practice makes perfect, so don't give up Before I met my hubby, I was gay and single.
(Must mention I was living in a small town at the time and there wasn't much to do for young people....)
I liked woman and had regular parties at my flat. Young students with their own flats had allot more freedom.
Without saying...... parties at my place was just for girls.
Normally when the drinks started flowing, the clothes started falling.....
Then the experimentation would start.
We would talk about likes and dislikes.
Showing each other was even better. We became experts...... 
When I met Hubby, I told him and showed him how I wanted to be touched, licked and shagged.
All the woman that hubby meets, says that he is the perfect gentleman......
Needless to say.....wish any of those girlfriends (I had at that time) are on SH.
Would love to introduce you to hubby....:rascal:
When I met Hubby, I told him and showed him how I wanted to be touched, licked and shagged.
All the woman that hubby meets, says that he is the perfect gentleman......
Needless to say.....wish any of those girlfriends (I had at that time) are on SH.
Would love to introduce you to hubby....:rascal: Quote by Erotic_Nauty
A while back I was able to put my bi curiosity to the test. The lady of the couple we were playing with at the time had said she was also bit curios so during play I gave her some eish! I felt like a fumbling school boy who had no clue what he was doing!
Yes our lady parts in anatomy is the same and I am sure most ladies would agree though in general the same spots feel nice BUT we each have our preferred *spot* which is that extra nice….
Now how in the name of all that is erotic am I supposed to know that *spot* if you don't guide me!?!?!
I mean a simply mmm or ahhh when I'm hitting the spot would assist don't just lay there like a living blow up doll!! Heck even a straight forward *little higher, bit left* would do! O well maybe she just was bit nervous, never did get a second chance to try it again with that particular lady since they moved away.
Did get a second chance with another couple and this time was little better, at least I got more of a reaction from her to guide me and what fun :giggle:
THANKS ALOT!!!! WHO IS GONNA CLEAN UP THIS MESS I MADE NOW???
