friend collectors

18 Jun 2012

my moan is about people who collect friends and then ignore any messages from them , I have written to "friends" and received no reply , why be a friend if not really interested , or is it the more friends you have the more important u feel.

18 Jun 2012

I get the same problem. But then again, there is one other problem. You have to sift out who is real and who is not. Also, distance plays a part in this.

18 Jun 2012

I have wondered about the friend thing, the most unlikely people have asked to be friends

18 Jun 2012

When we joined the site we went through the ads and responded to those we liked - 10% of people actually replied, which is just plain rude As someone else says, you have to sort out the fakes. If someone is only interested in your pics, there is a good chance they're fake

19 Jun 2012

Nope to the remark,*the most friends makes one feel important*. Some people are shy,the are being rebuffed by most people or ignored,thus they will ask to be a *friend* to see if you are open to talk to them, then if you agree,they will then mail you and start talking. Well that is how I see the friend requests, anyway.

19 Jun 2012

Never thought of it like that PiB

19 Jun 2012

I had one incident recently. Got to chatting with someone on my friend list. We exchanged personal contacts, and never heard from them again. Whats up with that.

20 Jun 2012

I had a couple of similar experiances get along very well and as soon as contact must be made they get scared and disapear

23 Jun 2012

I guess thats what friends are for here on site. It is sad. You know, I am home alone, and looking for some excitement, and there is nothing to be found. Where is the friends?

24 Jun 2012

We are new on this particular site however from our experience on other sites it seems a common occurrence that people request friendships from the get go with no contact being made first or, for that matter, subsequently.
In our (humble) opinion:
Winks should be used to make that initial contact. They are a nice, easy and quick tool to gauge the interest level from the other party.
Chatting is the natural next step after a wink has been reciprocated or can be the initial contact (if that is your preference), either by way of mails or in the chat rooms.
Friend requests should only be made after chatting and you feel that you would like to remain in touch with them. It is far better to have a short-list of people you actually know to one degree or another than a long list of strangers.
We use friend requests as a way to keep track of people we know or have enjoyed chatting to and may want to meet.
What is your opinion?

25 Jun 2012

Dear Nawtycat I agree with your procedural outlook on how friends should be gauged, however, i have read many posts before about contact somewhere on this site. Everybody seemed to agree that winks are not welcomed. The best way is just to mail. The mutual agreement is to at least make an attempt to respond to a mail message. You can gauge a lot from just a mere conversation over mail. Friend requests should come way after you have gotten to know someone, and would like to keep in contact. But then, friends are few.

16 Jul 2012

I recently had an experience. Made friends with this couple. Carried on chatting for a few days. Getting to know each other. Meantime they were only fishing for information and sharing contacts. So me being a good helper, I assisted them. Once I did that I never heard from them again. How rude is that? Its like they use you for information and that's about it. Not even a thank you.