So I have an idea, not really sure how well it would be received by the majority, but here goes anyway.
From time to time the topic of time wasters, pic hunters etc comes up. Often the suggestion is that this should be made a pay site to help reduce the number of these people.
But, what if the Gallery was not allowed to have any public pictures with nudity of any kind, and all nude pics had to be in PVT Albums and by invite only?
Yes, I know we all like to perv on the Galleries, but remember this suggestion simply has to do with trying to filter out "fakes".
Right, I have taken my place up against the wall and my blindfold is in position . . . ..
Taking it a step further, no one can looked at cams if the profile not image verify.
The same if you block a profile he could not looked at your profile, could not mail/wink you and could not looked at your cam.
Sounds like a good idea to me, but I would go further and say access should be denied until your profile is fully completed.
An probation period should be introduced, limiting the amount of profiles you can view and contact per day. Additionally access to view cam's in the chatroom should also be limited for the probation period, an example would be that, for the first month a user can only view one cam a day and then increase viewing over say three months.
After the three months probation, their disciplinary record is reviewed and full membership is approved or denied giving them full site access. This would also discourage multiple profiles as each profile would have access restrictions.
Swaggers over with a smile of expectation, and stand next to SDMR.
I suggest a once off admin/joining fee (say R150) which is used by the site to get a bureau report on the couple or individual who's profile it is. The mods can then verify that some of the basic information completed on the profile is true eg marital status, address and age. Only once this has been verified, does the profile become active/approved.
Secondly, give a time period eg 2 weeks within which to get your profile "member verified" ie a mod or another verified member can verify the profile as being seen. In other words, a profile becomes "member verified" when someone who has seen the people, either on cam or knows/met them personally and can vouch for them. The "member verified" means that all the other info completed under the description section of the profile is true eg race, height, weight etc.
The admin/joining fee will deter most fake profilers from even attempting to join the site; failing which; the mods have the ability to verify info submitted and if a profile is not approved, said profile cannot access anything on the site.
The time period/grace period given to become "member verified" allows the new profile to explore the site (test drive, if you will) and decide if this is where they want to be.
Once the profile is "member verified", everyone else on the site is assured that all physical/ factual information on the profile is authentic.
All good ideas, but to implement them
I suggest we get together more often be it at a club or park where ever and in this way we get to know each other .
Some of the people in this game have no problems with getting going but with us it took some doing.
It is very hard for hesitant people to get going and often they just give it up.
Making it more difficult for them will just make it worse and we would lose many good people.
Most fakers however are relentless, with too much time on their hands. (Like us typing away here – Quiet nightshift) Nothing you do will deter them.
We have just gone through an episode with a Verified member. WTF
We were on a pay site and were blow away by the lengths these guys went to to waste their time (and money) as well as yours. It is how they get there kicks, I don't know way.
Personally I don't mind to much if perverts look at naked pics of my wife, as long as they cannot put a face to it.
We just have to be more tuned at spotting the buggers.
And try and be nice if a newbie stumbles along your way please.
I'm getting to sound like a record machine, but for those that may have missed it. We have been on squinting sites for ten years, our albums have always been private. On this and other sites, including pay sites you still get the opener 'open your pics' line. On the pay sites the guys have the further attitude that since they have paid they are ENTITLED to see your pics and you are unfair to say no.
On the pay sites they also feel that since they paid you have got to meet and play with them.
On a privacy point, there is no way that we would allow any verification that entails anything beyond a mod meeting us to verify us, at home would also be fine. One of the sites a few years ago did it like that, but verification took a while and the coarse are quite heavy for the mods.
@ Playcouple.
I fully agree with your view of verification, NOTHING less than meeting and saying *Yes I met that person in real life* and he or she is who they say they are.
Verification for me is that ,and nothing Less
Everyone who verified someone,should also know that verification in real life DOES not mean that you have *played* with them. It only mean they know and have MET you and think you are trust worthy.
Hi there ppl I have been on the site for more then 1 year now and as u can see I'm in the southern cape. Its very difficult to get verified in this area. Most of the poeple in the area is not verified. Where can I find someone that can help me with verification? If there is any SH members in the area plz do contac me so that we can meet and u can verify me. No need for play or anything just to verify. Thanks in advance. Have a sexciting day.
Just to point out that verification has very little value. I'm a mod and I'm not verified!
Plus you ALWAYShave random people who verify anyone
Maybe the verification process should be different? More valuable? More detailed or more specific (what does it actually mean? )
Here on SH verification is far to easy, as one an get verified just by seeing someone`s face on webcam.
But on some other sites it is NOT that easy to get actually have to meet people in real life.
Chat and get to know each other.
As before I still remain verification to me means SOMETHING, it means that anyone can go and ASK about me from anyone who has verified ME, Or they can ask Me about anyone who I have verified.
IT means if anyone ask about anyone that that person is in the lifestyle and NOT just a fake.
And it is safe to go and meet that person and Not to be for us singles,and specially us females who will write and ask if it is okay to meet someone.
I have many times have ladies contact me to ask if it is okay to meet someone who has verified is the word here.
I always say that meeting someone who I have verified (someone who has verified me)does not mean that the people who is asking if that person is safe, will like each other, as each person has to meet anyone to decide for them self if they like each other.
Since I have been here, I Have seen Many Mods Come and Go, By going I mean they are made just a active profile by taking things to far.
I myself have been a Mod on few sites,I find it something NOT to repeat.
People think that anyone being a Mod is *someone special*.He or She is to KNOWS everything and should be pleased and bowed down to by normal site users all the time.
Mods get placed on a pedestal somehow and they and other people forget that that person is human after all.
@ Lee,
I would have thought that anyone who gets made a gets verified by AdminSteve via least.
And accordingly to Me,any Mod should at least know how to relate to people and their differences and At least have some knowledge about SEXUAL issues. And someone who promotes the site they are on.
Not to just be chosen because your mates think you will make a *Good Mod*
@ Valdonumuller,
I have found that meeting people at socials easier than meeting one on one.
I know numerous people in the lifestyle, NOT everyone who has met like this,has validated me Or I them.
You choose who you like and would not hesitate to say YOU like that person.
I have also met numerous people WHO would not like to be verified due to being scared to be identified due to their jobs or being in the public's *radar*.
Its very dificult Pib coz in George all social events are kept secret and becoz of ppl preferences (race issues). They don't invite other ppl into their groups. I tried to organise a meet and greet over the december holidays the response was not even worth mansioning. Enough said ill wait till I meet a genuine swinger who can verify that I am who I say I am. Funloving spontaneos easygoing clean and discreet guy. Thanks
Been giving this some thought:
I've come across some profiles that have been verified by several members. (None in our area)
It carries much more value if you can cross reference acquaintances and adds greatly to someones credibility.
So someone in a cluster please do the trouble of getting Cam verified and then verify the people you trust.
Then let them verify each other as well to form a cross referencing network.
As mentioned before making it difficult to get into things scares off good potential swingers more than it does an ass
I have described Cam verification under: Forum- Site Help- Unverified: "Verified, the easy way"
@ Lee
As with Pussinboots1, it does bother me that, as a mod, neither of your profiles are Member Verified.
IE place you balls on the chopping block so to say.