I know for a fact I will get flack for this, but I am prepared for it.
1st) yes, I am married.
2nd) my wife doesn't have sex with me.
3rd) I won't divorce her till my daughter is able to understand the dynamics of what is happening. she is 1.
now that we have that out of the way.
I have been on this site for a while, and have had a few responses, and then, all contact seems to cease.
now my questions are thus.
1) If you not interested anymore, why can't you at least tell me so I know what's happening, and don't wait for a message/response that will never come.
2) Why are there so few people in the northern suburbs?
3) every single post I see distinctly says no single men/ only couples/ no married men. All I'm looking for is someone who may or may not be going through what I am, and chat or do more. how difficult is it... I'm not here for a skelempie/slut/whore/bimbo, whatever the hell you want call it. I am looking for assistance to get 1.5 years of pent up sexual frustration out, so that I can function properly. I'd hire a prostitute if it were safe to do so in this day and age, but unfortunately it would be the equivalent of walking into the cdc and purchasing a lethal disease with a blind fold on.
so how exactly is this a site where like minded people can meet?
If anyone can assist me... hell even if there is a marriage counsellor on this site who can help pro-bono, that would be great...
in conclusion... It would be nice if people on this site at least had the decency to send a message back and state that they are not interested, or whatever the reason is to not contact...
A brave post darkjedeyw and one I commend you for, I'm sure you'll probably get some backlash for it.
I think the best thing to do is really go to a marriage counselor as a couple for advice, cause we all can give advice and listen to YOUR side of your marriage, but to really be able to *give guidance* BOTH sides of this marriage should be open for interpretation for any an active participation from both parties should be on the only from one side.
I do however feel for any gent and you...Most men does go through this, just ask most of your fellow married friends, sex seems to get the back seat of an relationship once the girls are married, why DO NOT ASK ME...there is many reasons.
Then when a child is born the gent always get attention after the Bambino`s needs are seen too.
As for saying thanks but no thanks....people just drift off....they start out all eager and friendly but then things go south and some never say why...it is just a normal human thing really.
But I give you 9.9 points for saying you are married, most men never do.
Best of luck.
Let me rather put it this way...
Okay, so we have established that I am married...
Now, all I am asking for is this.
Are there people here who have maybe gone through a similar thing, who can give me advice? Ultimately I would like to fix my marriage, and hopefully get her interested in swinging. I personally have always been interested in it, and would love to explore it. I have always been a bit of a voyeur, and exhibitionist. but yeah, one step at a time I suppose...
So hear I am, begging for help... I have tried everything I can think of. I really don't want to divorce my wife, but I'm getting very close... so please assist me hear...
My 2c
Contact lifeline or family life, or any of the other centres that provide marriage counselling, with a fee structure that is based on what you can afford.
That is if you want to try out counselling, and see if that helps.
If you are looking for other married people, who have been through something like this, or who are wanting to have some sex on the side, I don't know if this is the right site for you. Try looking at sites that are tailored for the purpose of infidelity.
The reason why you won't get much luck here, on a swinging site, is because many swingers believe that all parties involved need to be honest about the situation, as it creates trust. Many people have voiced (in previous threads) that if you are willing to break the trust of your wife, to have sex with them, what's to stop you from breaking their trust later on?
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like is said, I'm not looking to have sex with the couples who have hade similar experience as I am going through, I'm looking to hear what they did to resolve the issue, and weather or not it is resolvable. I'm looking for advice till I can get this sorted, then will see what happens from there. I have a new found reason for being on this site... not sex, but to find out more about the lifestyle as I am interested, and would like to be informed. I am reading through the forums, and am learning a lot. but right now, I am looking for advice and possible solutions from people who may have gone through, or are going through a similar experience as I am... so in effect... let's take the idea of sex and play off the table completely till I can resolve my own issues.
