Guess there are two aspects to this, and they apply to both the male and the female psyche: we are all voyeurs at heart, we are all turned on by watching, visuals make the greatest impression (hence the popularity of porn). Secondly, being 'removed from the action' frees the mind from any responsibility for the partner's pleasure, etc, and allows the observing mind to take in much more of the erotic stimuli created by this scenario than it would if you were an active participant, .....make sense? .......
Hi there, have to say this, like it or not, this is what makes me tire of this site, 1950 views and not a single comment, not even something irrelevant, not even something written in very bad english, not nothing, nada, diddly-squat, ZERO, it makes me wonder whether there is anybody out there left with a functional organ within their cranium, seems like an "opinion" has gone the way of the Dodo, it is extinct, deceased, gone, history, never to be found no more.........
you see now, spoken like a true information seeker.
While I am almost entirely of the same view as yourself, I think the problem is that people were never really allowed to have opinion. Whenever a person did, there was a particular Mod who was very quick to pour water on said opinion.
Anyway, like you say, the forum is not what it used to be, or even what it could be. The only way (seemingly) to get people to give input, is to bring up the cultural differences in the country, or alternatively to jump down someone's throat for sharing their opinion.
But, this is of course only my opinion.
I guess this thread is as good as any out there to air my views, my 'take' on things as they are, in that sexuality has 2 levels, one being the basic "animalistic' instinct, driven by procreation, the urge to multiply, the force that made homo sapiens dominant on this planet, purely physical, genetically encoded, socially disciplined and controlled by the powers of enslavement........ and then there is this other facet, where sexuality is our connection to the divine, to our spirituality, a shortcut to that which transcends the physical, acceptance of the eternal nature of our soul, wherein the true significance of our individual existence lies. I'm not going to carry on about this, I'm just going to quote Pink Floyd: Is there anybody out there? ............
I love to share my wife we started with a friend then a guy we met at a bar from there we started looking at websites for swingers we found some guys up to this point all white then we met a black man and he was the prefect gent we play with him a few times and some of his friends.
Since then we have met some nice black men and what is nice they are mostly well hung and she enjoys that!!!!!!!
So yes sharing your wife is great but be very sure what you are getting into be open with each other set boundaries and respect them!!!!!