So following VampEC1 suggestion.
The Do's and Dont's of Swinging:
Usually one of the early posts would say, look back in the forum and read what was said before. Now while that is good advice, I propose we start afresh seeing as we have new / additional contributors and even those that have commented before on the subject may get a new or different idea.
1)
make your own rules first
Respect is key.
Just because a woman is open to sexual fun, doesn't mean she is going to jump into every bed she can.
Respect yes and that includes how you talk to and treat someone but also not trying to make separate deals on the side with one of the partners. That is not swinging. If all agree that two can go and do their own thing it is a different story.
Also being honest about what you want and are willing to do and respecting the others rules.
You should be aware that there are two basic schools of thought in terms of how this works.
One group are into "sex with strangers" where knowing a person isn't necessary for the deed to happen. These people enjoy a quickie meeting, masked sex parties, dogging and hooking up with people at parties for sex (not just soft play).
The other group have a preference for long term friendship based sexual connections. Private events and exclusive relationships arrangements and groups are most prevalent in this context.
Both are valid and acceptable ways of going about this, but realise that there is every possibility that people may have a different preference to yourself and that even the assumption that others share your perspective may effectively put them off you, even if you're really open to either, and ruin your chances.
There appears to be a tendency for singles to be in the former category and couples to be in the latter but this is most certainly not true as a rule.
I think it's important to think about the pros and cons of each for your own well being in the lifestyle and decide what you are looking for, be up front and open about what you really want, that's what the write up space is for, so that there is less chance of offense.
Communication
Talk with your partner and playmates. Don't stay quiet and get yourself into an corner because your didn't want to tip the boat.
I'm also gonna 2nd respect, treat each other as you want to be treated.
Brush your teeth! Seriously!
While hygiene seems to be second nature to most, there are some who dont bother.
Make sure everything is fresh, clean, trimmed, etc.
Guys, take a look at your nails..... Long or rough nails hurt and dirty nails are enough to send any girl running.
Some fresh sheets on the bed also wouldn't go amiss.
If there is to be girl play, the ladies also have to think about trimming down their beautiful nails. :sad:
Do you have a suitable venue and a baby sitter? (Hopefully not in the same home.)
Does your lifestyle suit the "Lifestyle"
Oh yes. NP - you just touched on something that really made us raise eyebrows. .. Do not ever suggest play with kids asleep in the same room . .. thats just friggin bizarre! Yes that really happened to us!
Respect is important and then never use the "love"word
How about the basics? If you agree to meet for drinks, make a plan and get there, never stand someone up as all you are doing is ruining their evening. Time is limited and precious, why waste it on a no show.
Manners.
It is rude to compare one partner to the other during play. Someone's feelings will be hurt 99% of the time...
