Gerrie,
I think most men will agree with you,they find that ladies do not like giving BJ`s and if they do, they do not like to swallow.
Now BJ`s Is an something you learn to like or not to like.
I love giving BJ`s , BUT with condoms It is really not that nice to give....you cannot do things you can and would like to do when a gent is going without a condom.
Now married couples have all the fun in that department.
With a LONG term FWB, I would also go without a condom, IF I know who he shares his *joystick* the LONGTERM word here.
I have learned to give BJ`s from a gay friend of mine, and practicing whenever I had the after all these years,I still think I give an *oraait to a very good* BJ.
Deep throat has a technique to it..it is NOT easy and most ladies cannot control their gag do a deep throat BJ ,sitting on your knees is VERY Difficult!!!the trick is to breath when you can and to try and relax as much as you can.
the best way I have found for me is to lie on my back,my head lower than my body mostly hanging down the side of the bed a bit....and then to have the gent stand over me then his trusting is NOT as abrasive to my throat, as when I have to do if from another position.
The trick of swallowing with out tasting is to let him cum at the back of your throat,the cum slides down with out you tasting anything.
The semen taste can also be nice if the gent drinks pineapple juice and does not smoke or drink...smokers tend to have a bitter semen.
sheesh KC_ I am not claiming to be an expert on BJ`s...just saying I like doing them for all the same reasons you do.
Flavored condoms are okay...BUT once again, when you really want to do some long flat tongue licking,to little flicks of the tongue, lip-sucking on the penis shaft skin, nibbling on the shaft skin... biting down (if the gents like this) on the penis head, pushing the tip of your tongue into his urethra, a condom ,flavored or not, is in the way!!!
so yeah I am NOT good *giving head* in this sorta situations.
You are so lucky having a penis you can play with, with out a condom.
On swallowing...can you believe that I find my skin is glowing for a few days after that swallowing.
After though...to myself, I really must find me a long term *penis* (gent) again.....
Look giving BJs dont give me physical stimulation or pleasure(unless guys got his mouth or finger on me during). But i do get aroused by guys moans, reactions and expression. Thats a turn on! I hate the taste of condom though. BUT i am allergic to semen, so i dont ever do the cum in y mouth thing. I do however enjoy giving a guy a BJ that HASNT wrestled my poor head down to his hard on- spoiling my hair do. I prefer circumcised or less foreskin, easier when deep throating. And i like when a guy is clean shaven(no one likes flossing) tastier hehe. Oh and with a LONGTERM FBW sucking himafter he has been inside me, major turnon!!!
I have had this conversation with several of my female friends, both lifestylers and vanillas, and the general feeling is that they are a little over-whelmed when giving a bj. There are many women who would like to give bjs, however, are afraid that their skills may not be up to par and are too shy to ask anyone for assistance/their opinion for fear of being ridiculed or rejected.
(I wonder if guys feel the same way re cunnilingus???)
I personally used to be one of the aforementioned group......until I met Mr Nawty.....now I ABSOLUTELY LOVE giving bj's (including deep-throating) and have been told that I am quite adept..... Fellatio does not give me (my throat) any physical pleasure, however, I get VERY turned on by how turned on the gentleman gets by my mouth. Nothing beats getting a man SO turned on that he cannot help, but orgasm!
Not all ejaculation/semen tastes the same and I am happy to swallow and if it tastes ok, will do so repeatedly. Flavored condoms are also great, however, without is definitely better (as everyone has pointed out - bare-back only happens with our long-time FWBs and Mr Nawty).
Well most men like it if we encourage or moan as to direct them in ways we like, so why would they not do the same??
and I know we women are not all that insecure, so do direct us if we do it little less than what you guys like.
How are we to improve if not told the correct way that works for you.
Everyone differs, some like a little teeth some like more tongue some like more suction or what ever rocks your boat......so do share.
It's actually not about your "skill" level. Your partner might think you're awesome but what you do to him might not be quite the next guy's cup-of-tea. So asking or for that matter telling your partner what does it FOR YOU, shouldn't be considered doff or embarrassing.
It's just plain common sense.
On the other hand there is nothing worse than someone who decides for you what you want and goes full-tilt at their perceived target paying little attention to the signs, moans or any more explicit messages.
So speak up, for the sake of your orgasm and enjoyment of intimacy!
I agree totally with the what PiB and LeeEC have written above..............it was one of the wonderful lessons I learned through this awesome lifestyle: communication is key and is not a judgement or a personal slight!
Wish we could impart that lesson to all consenting adults.....
My wife will suck a nice cock but wants to feel the cum squirt into her pussy
So it seems that only men enjoy swallowing sperm
my g/f loves sucking and swallowing ...... she fantasizes having more cock
I enjoy giving slow sensual oral to my playmate especially when in a 69er position, my view is as long as they are willing to return the favour, why not.
or destined to :wanker: 
Which also means that I always taste when K comes in my mouth, which I let him... and then spit it back out almost immediately!
However, I really do enjoy giving BJs, with the limited set of skills which I do have 
I love playing with penises and balls. I love touching and feeling and licking and sucking...
I usually do it for *my pleasure* more than his, I assume he is enjoying it, and if I hurt him, he will say something...
When playing with other guys, I find flavoured condoms are amazing! I find that the LIFESTYLE brand and CASANOVA flavours are great. They don't have the horrible condom flavour that other brands and nonflavoured condoms have.
They have lots of different flavours, like chocolate, mint, strawberry, vanilla, banana, blueberry... well, those are in the Lifestyle boxes I just opened now :)
:)
C
DD.
Its hard to tell your lover listen youre doing it all wrong (even having tried communicating id loev it if you...) fact is some women just know and are liberated in that dep and some just have hangups.
So if you want a BJ mentor Im your man. Have had plenty enough experience....:D
