DISRESPECTFUL SINGLE MALES

I have been in the lifestyle for the last 9 years, both as part of a couple and as a single lady. In the last two years the situation with single males is reaching a point where I am considering leaving the website. 

Can somebody maybe explain to me why:

-  single males do not read profiles before contacting people

- single males do not respect preferences stated in the profile

- single males will send you to hell and back in a vulgar manner if you dare to refer them to the profile and the above mentioned preferences

- single males think that a single woman of a certain age and build must be desperate to take anything that comes her way

- if the conversation does not go the way they want, it will result in a personal attack

I can go on and on. You can as well add to it the "kots in a tumble dryer" males that are oh so keen to meet but when the meeting is set then they vanish.

Maybe the brave single males that send the messages " I have seen your preferences but age is just a number" , " i am all you dream of but I do not fit your preferences' and my favorite " you can make an exception in what you want" etc can enlighten me? 

Yes that's why they are single or no most of them are married or have a girlfriend they are just to chicken to tell their partners or some of the are just jealous its alright for them to screw around but when some one looks in their wife's direction they want to fight 

hi..I must apologise to you for ppl thinking they have a right to have there way with you at any point...as a male on the site looking for a lady or a couple I dont wont them thinking what you have written is true about all males on the you do get males out there who are crude...woman on the site get alot of mails for guys who think they on here looking to get fucked by any male.i must apologise. .but pls not all mails on here are like that.

Ok sorry I agree and apologise not all are 

@ Rainbow

How sad it is to read this kind of topic once again. I know about a LOT of females who was very active on here who left,due to men who disbehaves and become crude and hassles the lady once she declined or ignores a rude mail.

I find that most men think this is a site where the ladies whore themselves to anything that has a penis. Because they think we might just be desperate being on here. BIG MISTAKE.

I can tell those men that they will get a larger group of women who will *put out*  on a *normal* dating site, much more than here. 

Here, we ladies, whether we are single or play with a partner or play without our partner (but Him/Her knowing), has a personal high standard and the chances are the majority males here will  never get laid. 

As for not reading a written profile , once again HOW sad is that anyone just LOOKS at the profile`s photo`s on display, then jumps right in and write a note. Hoping that whatever line they are using is enough. 

If a male really wants to stand out to that couple or female, TAKE time to write a neatly correct spelled introduction of yourself. And accept  that the lady might decline.

I know most of the peeps on SH is to Lazy to write something about themselves, but we who took the time to write something as a guideline really expect to have it read IT really will save time as you can read if you are a possible *fit* for those ladies or couples. It really helps that no one has to waste their time. Ms Rainbow really has a written profle with a detailed preferences list stated in her profile. Thus making it easy to know if you will fit the bill or not.

Myself, I think most men are only on here trolling, and DREAMING and a lot of time wasters. 

INdeed, assuming anyone is desperate is the absolute wrong starting point. What a sad state of affairs. In time, I hope that the weeds will be able to be rooted out and the rest will be able to play in peace...best of luck going forward!

What really grinds my gears is when you are friendly without expectations and you get send to hell and back,I have been n the lifestyle for about five years now,And know my way around the joint,what bothers me is when I am friendly and reply to a single lady they just ignore me,a friendly hi I am not interested will definitely work for me,or couples that tune you because they are not looking for single males yet their profiles says they do,or that they will contact you,excuse me,I am not an usable asshole when it suits you,get the correct preferences and everybody will be as fit as a fiddle,I really appreciate the delicate female body,and I always hand out compliments,dont be rude about ,just say thanks and feel amazing about,just because I do have a cock doesn't mean I am one.

and lets not forget the single women and couples who initiate contact saying they like your profile and would you please tell them more.

You then send them a lengthy, polite and articulate reply, as requested, and three months down the line your "unread" email is automatically deleted.

There were questions asked, recently, as to why the forum would appear to be dying off. Topics like this are killing it for me!

Yes things aare not what they used to be, maybe why so many members have left

1. They can't read. Not even between the lines. That is why they are single or in unhappy marriages. And best of all - they don't learn.

2. Most of the times they chat, they are very horny. They will set up a meet. But the moment they blew their load staring at the computer, they are satisfied.

3. We have met a few nice guy's. They are out there, but not many of them.

This topic is really getting tired as far as im concerned....there are all kinds of people from all walks of life on this site....some behave badly...some have no intention of ever meeting...there are way to many single men on the site..so of course they are going to get a bad rap purely on numbers..there are plenty of "couples"here we are not couples...there wives have no idea they are on here...the problem is that people are behaving badly..not only singles...

the site is what it is ..work around the problems...a few polite questions will really give you the answers that you need...(for me meeting at wimpy is a no no..even thou iv been told they have great coffee hahahaha)..have your own filters...and when things dont work out..just move on....its up to you how you want to handle things...smile or moan or grown

just looking at Supervrou post above...as far as im concerned she/him makes some really silly points....we cant read..so thats why we single lol..we sit in front of the computer and wank..really......and once we cum we not interested in meeting.... how can i take your views seriously...btw you post was the one above...so its not personal

In agreement that the subject has been debated and beaten like a rented mule. We made peace with the fact that there are certain profiles you best avoid...singles and couples alike, although purely statistically singles win this category.

Nothing silly about Supervrou's post though...would just change the wording from "can't" to "dont"... This will be the only logical reasoning behind getting 3+ mails a week from married guys, although our profile clearly states our preferences. 

But...I digress. This issue will always be just that...a issue you have to work around.

Unfortunately, I do agree. I have a definite statement in my profile that I do not want to get involved with bi or gay males. I do not mind being in a group with ladies present because I am almost certain people will behave then. I tried to arrange a fun-filled afternoon at Bishop Bird Park on the 22nd Dec 2017 and specified ladies and couples but only males pitched. It really makes me ashamed to be seen as part of 'that' group of people

It is, I agree, indeed sad, even pathetic, that men do what they are accused of.  The unfortunate thing is that is burns the chances for ever male that is here exactly because he respects the ladies. An obvious reason for this behavior (not an excuse, a reason) is clear from the analysis in this post: https://www.swingingheaven.za....

The more single men you have in any place, the more chances there are that this type of behavior is going to surface. 

I also made the mistake of being rude and crude to a couple (Chappie) without cause, out of shear frustration for the umpteenth profile with "...single men don't call us"  type of phrases and the total mistrust of single and married men who play alone. A mistrust which I now fully understand and sympathize with.

Sorry guys, hate to break this to you, and hope it sinks in, we are not God's gift to anything. Think about it carefully and read up a bit and you will realize that women can do just fine without us, even if we are the last man standing. They don't need us for money, they have their own, they don't need us for security, they can provide for themselves, they don't need us for children, they can get those from labs, they don't need us for sex, hell, there are robots out there that do a better job (apparently)....

The Hedonist, how can you say it was " ;;;;;; single men dont call us" as we a couple who only play with men, prefer them bi as made clear on our profile, at this stage we dont play with couples or females.

We have never had a "single men dont call us" on our profile from day one as finding a bi man would be slightly difficult if we excluded men, or not?

We dont hold it against  you as you will never play with us because you dont meet our requirements, even if you were not rude.

Suppose from what you say we were your punching bag as you were pissed off with others.

Just some advice , let this subject rest as you will chase people away from you as this is about fun not a self examination.

I'll love to have fu?n 

Chappie, please read my  entire post before you come out guns ablazing.

Actually read most of the posts you have made, well looks like most of us come her for sex and fun, you seem to be here for who knows what...........