I get it. I truly do. Your dick, your special trouser snake, that joy stick of happiness, is the most magical dick in all of the land. There is no other dick like it in the entire world. Never mind that 50 percent of people on the planet have one. Never mind that for the vast bulk of women, they care more about the man that the dick is attached to then the flesh tube dangling there and occasionally getting stuck to your thigh on a hot day.
Your trouser snake is so magical that the mere sight of it when flung into stranger's inboxes will immediately reduce them into a cock craving frenzy. They will not be able to think straight until they have their sweaty lil paws all over your manmeat.
Except not really.
Dick is somewhat lower on a woman's priority list. They actually care more about if you have your shit together, if you have a job, if you are confident, if you have some sort of skill set, if you are a functioning human being. Few and far between are the women that are so cock obsessed that the only thing that matters is the peen. That completely discount the dude attached to the dick and only care about what you are packing.
But you know who really really likes cock shots?
Gay guys.
All over the world, your poorly lit cock shots with a tv remote thoughtfully included for size comparison are being completely ignored by women and eagerly consumed by cock craving gay guys. So by all means, keep flinging out your erect man meat photos all over the internet. But know the eyeballs appreciating them are usually not quite the target market you were aiming for…
Edit:
What I specifically say, and what they seen to be missing, is that I am talking about complete strangers that I have never talked to before, sending me unasked for photos of their dick.
I am talking about non consent here. About people sending me photos of their gentials that I never asked to see, to the point that I start to dread wading through my various inboxes through my various social media sites.
TL/DR: Men should be proud of their amazing dicks, post them everywhere. No body shaming here. Consent is sexy. If that total stranger did not ASK to see your dick, don't go emailing a photo to them of your cock. Non consent is not sexy
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Dick pics: You are missing your target market
Sex God
While everything that was said in the above post has merit, and especially the part about sending pics before being asked, one thing that immediately jumped out at me was the fact that on a site such as this one ie: swinging / sex related site, if the woman on the receiving end was not so interested in dick and more concerned with the list as presented, then that particular lady is probably looking for a dating site and not a swinging / sex related site.
But yes guy's, remember, everyone knows that TV remotes come in condensed versions these days 
What you said in your reply does have merit except I disagree on the point of a dating site. This is in essence a dating site for likeminded people. We also first meet people and have coffee or drinks dates. Isnt that dating in a different sense. Its just not sex on the first meet. Also we had intances where singles posed as couples and couldn't wait to send their pics to us without us asking for it. So I think its a general problem that lots of people have. We would much rather talk to a face than genitals lol its a bit impersonal. We want to meet the person first and really see if we are interested in seeing there genitals which I think there is time for
Sex God
@Newcouple2009,
In continuum, I have sent you a Private Message.
I have read the original posting on FL.
@ Newcouple2009 Great reposting for very relevant issues really.
@ wolfman There is really very sensual poses & photos that anyone can take of any gent, that is sensual stirring and mouth drooling!!
None of them has to be genital orientated at all.
Now I also know most men like their genitals and they are very proud of it,and they want to flaunt it.
They can be proud and and they can have an ego about their genitals, I am not arguing about that, It is a fact of life after all.
We women tend to go to a professional photographer and we request some sensual photos of ourselves JUST so we can look better than the selfies people tend to take. We even experiment with home made photos to see which one`s are sensual and sexy! We even actively have *dress-up* for home photo sessions.
Some ladies go to professional photographers to have some sexy Boudoir Photographs taken for the love of their life for birthdays/valentine/xmas or just for their special moments or just because they want to.
That is why the question remains, Why can Men not do the same??
Or ask a friend to do a little photo shoot of you, NOW this is where the married men will have a problem, they do have to do this on the sly, but nothing stops them to also ask their skelmpie to take a few sensual nice photos of them.
I suggest that you *wolfman* and anyone else who would like to know what sexy poses there is for men, browse active male model photos and you soon will get LOTS of ideas. And YES, you need not be a model to have sexy photos.
Sex God
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@ wolfman
I will have to go browse the gallery and come back to you.
@PIB1 . . . . one mouth shot coming up
Master of Sex
I agree that the dick pics can be a little too much at times, after all I am one of the people that have to authorise them and have seen 100s here. I am always intrigued by the ones that show very little.. the one taken where the V (the part above the penis from the abdomen area) is showing but not the dick. (correct me if I am wrong ladies) The pic in bed with the penis covered but the legs are showing, the sexy stance with hands over the penis and the even sexier one in denims with just the top of the penis showing or not.
What I am saying is leave a little to the ladies imagination and if they should ask, show them what they want to see, tease a little. I agree that you should not show us ladies what we have not asked for, while some are really sexy, hard or soft they can be intriguing to look at, but it isn't all we want to see.
I am a hands person and love to see hands in pics too and have seen a few very sexy general pics with hands being the centre of the pic. (this I can't explain, just looks good when you see it) another turn on is a mind, I love it when the person can hold a decent conversation before I see what else he or she has to offer me.
I could pick out a few profiles that have very sexy pics that would be an example and will ask those individuals if I may post their names and links to their pics here sometime, but most have them in private folders and I respect the users privacy.
hope this helped ;) and please remember this is my opinion.
Forum Virgin
unsolicited dick pics are , in my opinion ,in very bad taste .
rather not send us a dick pic or any other pic for that matter if you have nothing else to show other than your limp cock , but rather try to seduce us with your language skills and written charm to convince us why you think we should meet.
oh , and those pics taken with a toilet in the background are just plain sleazy and tacky . FFS guys , try to find a different venue to take your pics - imagining what you may have just done in / on / around the toilet just does not go down well .
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While everything that was said in the above post has merit, and especially the part about sending pics before being asked, one thing that immediately jumped out at me was the fact that on a site such as this one ie: swinging / sex related site, if the woman on the receiving end was not so interested in dick and more concerned with the list as presented, then that particular lady is probably looking for a dating site and not a swinging / sex related site.
But yes guy's, remember, everyone knows that TV remotes come in condensed versions these days
One or two dickpics are fine, we have come across a few (ok i lie many) that have 10 dick pics, someone had something like 30..................
There are more than quite a few couple profiles where it is specified that they are only looking for guys that are well endowed, so dickpics are by inference a requirement, even if only to prove the size of the package.
Keep in mind that there is also a level of exhibitionism involved so some guys and women get a kick out of total strangers viewing them. This is borne out by the number of guys on cam having a wank, the number of single women on cam showing off is much higher in relation to the number of single women on the site, and the (real) couples showing off is a bit lower. This observation is not relevant 24 hours per day, but taken on average over the period of a week.
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@playcouple, Please help me understand the above?
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[quote="playcouple" the number of single women on cam showing off is much higher in relation to the number of single women on the site,
@playcouple, Please help me understand the above?
Nice exmple, right now there are four women on cam of the 11 cams open (the other 7 are single guys) so we have a rounded off 35 % of cams open now being women and 65 % single guys. This in relation to over 70% being single guys.
