I know this is an old topic, but I just read a profile that irked me.
I respect that many people on the site have colour/race preferences when choosing playmates.
But why is it important who your playmates play with when not playing with you?
The profile I just read asked that potential playmates be a certain colour (we are used to this no?) but the part that irked me was that they request that if you have ever played with people of other colours, or still play with people of other colours, please do not contact them.
This is the first time I have seen that kind of request.
These people will never get the wonderful opportunity of meeting us, never mind the many other great people on the site...
Just wanted to know how you guys felt about this.
;)
C
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Orgasminator
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Casanova
Hell, what the f*ck is wrong with people? Yes you can have weird requests but Really now.
Have any one watched animals that graze on a farm or in a field. All thought the farmer wants them all to eat grass in the same field, which they do. But the sheep will stand by one another and eat grass and the cows will stand by one another. they dont mix. Even if you have just cows the Bahmann cows will not share the same area as the Switser cows.
You will how ever get the odd sheep that will graze between the cows like wise with the Brahmann and Switser.
So the same is in life. So live with it as the farmer must live with his cattle.
Joyrider
Respecting another persons requests and rules is part of life.
Sex God
@KC perhaps you should ask them in PM to find out.
personally, I would suggest just moving along and not let it concern you that they have different views than you.
EVERY person has different ways of doing things, or has different views on various things. People who only wash their clothes a certain way, people who want their dishes washed a certain way, people who drink their coffee a certain way, people who only have sex with the opposite sex, people who only have sex with people between a certain age, and we all seem to be pretty much ok with all this . . . . but when it comes to race (black, white, Indian, mixed, Chinese etc) and people want certain things we are all up in arms about it.
Like @Joyrider said, it is the natural order of things, has been for centuries all over the world, not just in SA
ENOUGH already South Africa . . .
Orgasminator
Jammer mense ek is een persoon wat altyd neutraal probeer wees as dit oor wit, swart, geel, groen en pienk gaan, maar as daar nou een ding is wat die dam onder die eend uit ruk is dit bogenoemde topic.
Die mense kom tog oorspronklik uit die aap en soos tegnologie nou vorder gaan dit nie meer lank vat dan kan bobbejaan praat, gaan dan seker ook 'n topic raak by bobbejaan dat die mens nie met hom wil swing nie.
Asseblief kom ons bly by opbouende kritiek maar los dit om mense te kritiseer oor dinge doen waarmee hulle nie gemaklik is nie. Elke mens in SA en oor die wereld het regte waarom probeer om die regte te vertrap.
Ons wil 'n voorbeeld noem, het baie vooroordele met wie ons sal swing onder dit tel single of getroud, vet of maar, "gay of Straight". mens of dier, kleur of geur, oud of jonk, virgin of nie virgin, vriende of vreemdeling en selfde kamer of apart, en so kan ek aangaan hoekom nou een uitsonder.
Ek maak die volgende voorstel, kom ons geniet ons regte en laat ons self daaroor besluit en verseker ons gaan baie mense kry wat wil swing en ons bou die leefstyl uit na 'n leefstyl waar almal hulle uitkyk geniet, die wat kans sien om te verander as gevolg van ondervinding is dit hulle voorreg.
It is true there are a lot of variants to WHAT people find comfortable they discriminate against
FAT people
UGLY people
OLD people
YOUNG people
SINGLE men
SINGLE women
MARRIED men
MARRIED women
IN A RELATIONSHIP people
GAY people
TGIRLS/BOYS people(crossdressers)
People with DISABILITIES, like wearing glasses, having a prosthesis, or even false teeth...
THE list can go on and on and on.....but but we always seem to just repeat the one *ethnic groups.*
I have already said my say about that, so will not repeat it.
But in answer to KC_ s surprise that there is people who would not play with me knowing I play with other ethnic groups is actually the same if people who will not play with me when KNOWING I am Pan-sexual, KINKY,Fat,Ugly,Old....
Heck you even get the people who will not PLAY with me cause, I do play with married men.
Some will not even look my way,cause I am not what society wants me to be.
So yes just as men will not admit to having a BI side, most people will not admit to playing with other ethnic groups.
All is the fault of how we all grew up......the newer generation is busy demolishing that,Luckily.
The only way we can cope with all these ODD prejudices is to ignore them, and move on to the next couple or person.
We have plenty to choose from.
The really liberated people who does not have any problems with anyone or anything, usually do.
Sex God
Quote by Pussinboots1
So yes just as men will not admit to having a BI side, most people will not admit to playing with other ethnic groups.
All is the fault of how we all grew up......the newer generation is busy demolishing that,Luckily.
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@PIB, I agree with almost everything you have said, everything except for the "newer generation is busy demolishing that" . . . our newer generation is holding onto a past that they have benefited from, they are not (because the older generation will not allow them) moving on.
Although is saddens me that people are THAT closed minded, I am not really bothered by it.
I have never thought about the "if you play with THOSE kinds of people, I don't want to play with you" aspect of it before.
I thought people chose playmates based on their personal qualities, not on their associations.
That was probably very naive of me.
@ PIB and SDMR, it was a young couple (mid twenties). I think these things have more to do with exposure to different people, and less to do with generation.
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C
Casanova
Sad. Thats all I can say.
The younger generation will sort that out, except for the exstremists.
My daughter took my gransons to a childrens party and on leaving she asked them" Boys did you notice we were the only white people there"
They looked at her with a so what look, is that important, they did not understand the question.
Quote by KC_
I know this is an old topic, but I just read a profile that irked me.
I respect that many people on the site have colour/race preferences when choosing playmates.
But why is it important who your playmates play with when not playing with you?
The profile I just read asked that potential playmates be a certain colour (we are used to this no?) but the part that irked me was that they request that if you have ever played with people of other colours, or still play with people of other colours, please do not contact them.
This is the first time I have seen that kind of request.
These people will never get the wonderful opportunity of meeting us, never mind the many other great people on the site...
Just wanted to know how you guys felt about this.
;)
C
I have chatted with a couple here with exactly that on their profile, cannot say if it is the same couple as I do not know. The couple (lady in particular) that I spoke to said that it was because of their fear of disease and they personally believe that AIDS is a higher risk in the black community, hence the possibiity of a white person having it is higher if they have been with black people... That was their sole reason for that request. I did not voice any opinion as they are entitled to their choices and beliefs no matter how misinformed they might be. Some people cement things in their own minds and nothing can change that.
Personally, I could care less who you may have been with. I don't even actually want to know, that is is your personal life that has nothing to do with me. If we meet, it's you and me at that moment - present only, your future and your past does not concern me...
Maybe the husband in that couple has a size complex, and if they meet a couple that had met a black couple, he does not want to show his 5incher knowing the lady has had a 10incher!
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