Ok, so what is worse than getting to a "meet" and finding out that the lady of the couple you are meeting is not so keen on this activity?
Getting to a "meet" and it's the man who is the less than keen one . . . . .
I cannot understand how people (male or female) can put their partners under such pressure, it is really beyond my comprehension . . .
Guy's if she is not ready . . . . . forget about it, don't do that to her
Ladies . . . . well I guess if he is that wimpish, you will just have to deal with the major jealousy issues that are on the way
This is a lifestyle for mature consenting adults, not just for people over a certain age
This one of the best statement made, if one of the partners been under pressure rather take your bag and leaf.
Our expierced been after the meeting/play the men in the couple starting telling in mail how you must tread his wife then she will enjoy it.
But from the wife perspective not 'n word, because she was not in it from the start.
Most off the time its only one person in the couple making contact and do the chatting that must be a red light going on.
Beware of generalizations Guys...
You could be missing out on the most enjoyable of experiences
It's quite true. .. There are plenty of couples online who are definitely not BOTH into this idea. A bunch of us EC girls ( SH members, female partners) have decided that the key is to find couples whose female partner is the main active member on the site. But I can see how that might not work in your case SDMR.
I'm sure though that the statistically more likely scenario is one where the female is more reluctant. ...
We met a couple about 4 months back, and the first chance she got she told my husband that she had no interest whatsoever in swinging. Apparently he's been trying to get her into it for years and won't give up and so now her standard MO is to tell the guy in no uncertain terms about her complete lack of interest as soon as she can.
Wish she'd said something before and saved me the trip to meet them.
