I am no psychiatrist and I am still only in my thirties... But older is not always wiser and medical professionals are not the only ones that can give advice on the highs and lows of living...
So having said that, I want to share some advice with everybody. COMPLAIN! That's right, complain! Everybody is always too scared to say what they want to say or do what they want to do. Fear of hurting someone's feelings, fear of passing someone off. Well I tell you this: Stop doing only what you have to do and start doing what you want to do. Stop being what people expect you to be and start being who you choose to be!
When the idiot in the car in front of you takes too long to pull off at the robot, shout at him! Complain about his driving! When the food they serve you at a restaurant is up to your taste, send it back! Complain! When you are subjected to watching the same old Crap on TV, send the broadcaster a letter and Complain! When a site best suited to meet a lady for a threesome has no one to offer it........Yes, COMPLAIN!!
We have so much to complain about in this messed up world but most just keep quiet and keep on at it! Screw that! Complain, complain, complain!!! Let the frustration out and stop bottling it up! If more people complained about e-tolls, taxes, electricity hikes, fuel hikes, high food prices, stupid traffic laws, crime, useless governments, pot holes, load shedding, human trafficking, bad drivers, cheating spouses, war, etc, etc, etc, the world have no choice but to listen! Plus, you relieve unnecessary tension by expressing your anger and frustration.
Trust me when I say this: You are not a whiner if you complain about situations that do jot go your way, you are human and you are simply standing up for yourself.
But things go your way, be content and appreciative. Live your lives people. Get what you want, don't take what you get!
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Complaining is good!
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DUDE??????????????
This is South Africa, all we ever do is complain, complain, complain. It's doing things differently, looking at things differently, finding out more about things, or even complaining correctly that we are unable to do.
That is (In my own opinion) the single biggest fault we as South Africans have, all we do is complain, then we feel a little better, then we start getting a little more irritated, so we complain a little more and thus feel a little better, and so the cycle goes on and on and on.
We (and I include myself here) do not do anything about anything other than to say "THINGS NEED TO CHANGE" . . . .
OH, and I am also only 30 (I just happen to have 14 years experience) 
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DUDE??????????????
This is South Africa, all we ever do is complain, complain, complain. It's doing things differently, looking at things differently, finding out more about things, or even complaining correctly that we are unable to do.
That is (In my own opinion) the single biggest fault we as South Africans have, all we do is complain, then we feel a little better, then we start getting a little more irritated, so we complain a little more and thus feel a little better, and so the cycle goes on and on and on.
We (and I include myself here) do not do anything about anything other than to say "THINGS NEED TO CHANGE" . . . .
OH, and I am also only 30 (I just happen to have 14 years experience)
Many complain yes, but not near enough I think. I say people should complain about everything, not just the common issues that face us.
My personality seems to "clash" with many on this site. I am actually quite proud of that, it proves that I am one of a kind, I stand out. I am so different from the average Joe that I am yet to come across another like me. I am unique and that is not a bad thing... If anything, I think it is quite rare. On this site, it seems the only way to have success is to be an "average joe"...
I have a list of guidelines I live by and I will share them here. Many can benefit if they apply them in their own lives. These are my own personal 10 commandments.
1. Never back down from a fight.
2. Play every game to win.
3. Never accept defeat.
4. Don't rely on other people for anything.
5. Get revenge against those who harmed you.
6. Never apologise for being yourself.
7. Never give second chances.
8. God forgives, I don't.
9. Do unto others before they do unto you.
10. Never bow down to a mortal man!
I am not a "bad oke". I am just me. I don't think I am better than everybody, but I am striving to be... If that makes sense?
Orgasminator
Sorry my man but nothing make sense, Thanks my live is not so bored and i think a lot of members will back me.
General comment
It is not that you complain, it is the HOW you complain that really matters.
The *how* is what defines if you are petty or childish or self-asserting.
The issues you want to complain about also defines how you are perceived by others.
@ Stamina`s your own personal 10 commandments.
My own way of looking at this.
1. Never back down from a fight.
The really wise knows when to bow out of a fight gracefully.
2. Play every game to win.
Not every game can be won but we can all strive to win.
3. Never accept defeat.
Defeat is sometimes unavoidable,it is how you handle defeat that will make a difference to your life.
4. Don't rely on other people for anything.
A Very cynical out look towards life, but sometimes it is true.
5. Get revenge against those who harmed you.
Revenge might make you feel good for that moment, but in the end it harms your soul.
6. Never apologise for being yourself.
Fully agree with this one.
7. Never give second chances.
Always give a second chance, people are only human with lots of flaws. If you do something wrong would you not like to have a second change to righten the wrong?? And it seems you have not done anything wrong in your life then??
8. God forgives, I don't.
So what you are saying is, if your kid does something bad and wrong you are NOT going to forgive her??One cannot make such a statement like this with out thinking further than the offence or who the person is who is doing the wrong
9. Do unto others before they do unto you.
So you would do bad things but do not want to receive back???even if you are doing it with out knowing about it) Very enlightening statement this.
10. Never bow down to a mortal man!
We can just strive to not have to do this. But sometimes we have to give a little bow,even if just to say to someone, you are a great person!
And heck yes I will bow down if I was ever to meet the Queen Elizabeth.
@ wolfman, LMAO I agree I agree !!!!!!
Ok Ok... So when you're right then you're right. I guess I have been whining lately. But it's just that I don't like to loose and I always get my way. Spoiled brat I suppose. I hate it if things don't go my way! I am not one to sit back and just always "accept" things. I fight for what I want.
I am sure it has been an "entertaining" period for you all... 
I have noticed that since I stopped drinking, I have been a bit "edgy". Not that I drank a whole lot but did enjoy a beer or 6 like most. Maybe I should just start climbing into the beer again. He he he.
I have noticed that since I stopped drinking, I have been a bit "edgy". Not that I drank a whole lot but did enjoy a beer or 6 like most. Maybe I should just start climbing into the beer again. He he he. Do you feel taken advantage of by life?
Do you feel - a lesser amount of confidence?
Do things scare you that has previously excited you?
Do you feel that enough is enough.....but the solution to your predicament is just out of reach?
- Im in no way saying/
'In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity'
Now.....before im burnt at the stake for being a radical thinker.....this book has been exalted for two thousand years . If something is able to withstand the test of time like that.....something about it must be working right....
Download the pirated copy if you have to....what have you got to lose?
Do you feel - a lesser amount of confidence?
Do things scare you that has previously excited you?
Do you feel that enough is enough.....but the solution to your predicament is just out of reach?
- Im in no way saying/
'In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity'
Now.....before im burnt at the stake for being a radical thinker.....this book has been exalted for two thousand years . If something is able to withstand the test of time like that.....something about it must be working right....
Download the pirated copy if you have to....what have you got to lose?
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Do you feel taken advantage of by life?
Do you feel - a lesser amount of confidence?
Do things scare you that has previously excited you?
Do you feel that enough is enough.....but the solution to your predicament is just out of reach?
- Im in no way saying/'The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.'
'Thus we may know that there are five essentials for victory:
1 He will win who knows when to fight and when not to fight.
2 He will win who knows how to handle both superior and inferior forces.
3 He will win whose army is animated by the same spirit throughout all its ranks.
4 He will win who, prepared himself, waits to take the enemy unprepared.
5 He will win who has military capacity and is not interfered with by the sovereign.'
'In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity'
Now.....before im burnt at the stake for being a radical thinker.....this book has been exalted for two thousand years . If something is able to withstand the test of time like that.....something about it must be working right....
Download the pirated copy if you have to....what have you got to lose?
Have you read s'crew it just do it' by richard branson?
Art of war was written earlier than 2000 years ago if memory serves.
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2000 years? That is one old book!
Stamina , from your posts you are someone that takes pride in improving your knowledge and skills, its a very thin little book and a hell of a lot of what you have been taught (self or otherwise) is derived from the same principles, ones that were laid down in that very same book........
Sexlightened
Our basic/foundational life rules are slightly different to Stamina's but they work extremely well for us:
1. Play every game to win
2. Failure is not an option
3. Only argue when the subject matter is of importance to you....otherwise it's simply a waste of time
4. Listen to others' opinions/arguments - you may learn something new (even if it's just that they are idiots lol)
5. Look for the ultimate experience in everything you do
6. Do unto others as you'd like done to you......don't fall into the trap of not being yourself and acting in a way that you'll regret later just because someone else makes you that mad (never give someone else the power over your behaviour or feelings)
7. Love yourself above all others/everything else
8. Remember that 'what you sow is what you'll reap'....or that karma is a bitch....
Use it or don't but keep smiling whatever you do!
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