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Warming the Bed
Yes there are a lot of bullshitters on this site and a helluva lot who try their luck, cheat on their partners, get their rocks off by perving over the pictures/photos, just want to talk dirty and so on and so on........................................
On the other hand we have met some great people who we swing with and look forward to meeting many more.
It's the bullshitters and liars who make life difficult for those of us who genuinely want to swing and have fun. Arranging meetings and pitching up is the difficult part. You chat here, send a few replies back and forth, arrange to meet and then it all falls apart - cancellation at the last minute or just not pitching up. People like that should be named and shamed. Can the admin people not cancel their subscription or block them or something?
The bad news is fortunately far, far less than the good news. We have met some fantastic couples here who have become good friends.
All very true guys.
I have made appointments to meet up, just to say sorry not meeting and the same happens to me...all due to different reasons.
Sometimes something the men saying or doing something to make me change my mind,or work happens. Or I need to cancel due to my girlfriends needs who will always come first. Life do happen.
We who cancel,or get canceled, is not always a bull-shitters life just happens.
But it is not nice being stood up ,or standing someone up.
So if there is a wall of shame, I would be on there aswell!!!
Just one day something happens and you guys need to cancel a meeting and then your names will also be everyone will think you are not the *real deal* How sad that would be.
We after all are all only human.
PiB true it happens, but I'm sure you're one off the few who actually let your meet know somethings come up.....it's those who simply disapear who ticks me off!
I mean we have kids so ya, maybe someday it will happen that we can't make it, but at least let the people know. Don't just not show up and if you try to message them to ask if all are cool they never answer again....
So far I had a few good encounters with members on this site. I like the long term approach that you get in the people you eventually meet. But in life I learned that not everybody likes you! ;-) so I constantly have to get over it! ;-)
Yes, get all types of BS's and in this mixture there are the ones that have to conquer their own fears and issues trying to 'find' and 'define' themselves in the lifestyle.
The real issue are the ones that are long time swingers but don't get to the point of actually getting themselves VERIFIED! My point is that we don't need a "name n shame" wall, but more VERIFIED members! The BS's and the undecided (it's OK if you're in that zone now) should get to the point where they become comfortable with the idea of getting seriously involved or move on to the site you can associate. The long standing members should consider becoming verified members. That is how you can distinguish between newbie BS's and weathered BS's!
Voila!!
Gerrie,
It is all good and well getting verified,at least you know the person you are talking to is known to someone else.
BUT I do find that anyone who just doing a webcam session can be verified,and that only says they are whom they say they are,it does not make them people who will meet and join in swinging/or sexual interludes.
Some are just webcam wankers.
I have an idea guys - GRIFF LISTEN UP!!
On another site I see a "review" option for members to give other members a 'validation' that they have met and or played with them - that they are genuine. Why dont' we get a similar idea on our profiles here - if you meet someone(s) and you would like to give them a good reference, you get to give them stars! It can be designed so that you can give a person no starts but not minus stars. So no stars for a failed meet, one star for a good social meet, 2 stars for a great social meet and 3 stars for a good playing meet, 4 for a great playing meet and 5 for a mind blowing playing meet! Rate them EVERYTIME you meet them and the profile with the most stars wins!! :twisted:
On another site I see a "review" option for members to give other members a 'validation' that they have met and or played with them - that they are genuine. Why dont' we get a similar idea on our profiles here - if you meet someone(s) and you would like to give them a good reference, you get to give them stars! It can be designed so that you can give a person no starts but not minus stars. So no stars for a failed meet, one star for a good social meet, 2 stars for a great social meet and 3 stars for a good playing meet, 4 for a great playing meet and 5 for a mind blowing playing meet! Rate them EVERYTIME you meet them and the profile with the most stars wins!! :twisted:
Quote by Gerrie2012
The real issue are the ones that are long time swingers but don't get to the point of actually getting themselves VERIFIED! My point is that we don't need a "name n shame" wall, but more VERIFIED members! The BS's and the undecided (it's OK if you're in that zone now) should get to the point where they become comfortable with the idea of getting seriously involved or move on to the site you can associate. The long standing members should consider becoming verified members. That is how you can distinguish between newbie BS's and weathered BS's!
Voila!!
Quote by Pussinboots1
Gerrie,
It is all good and well getting verified,at least you know the person you are talking to is known to someone else.
BUT I do find that anyone who just doing a webcam session can be verified,and that only says they are whom they say they are,it does not make them people who will meet and join in swinging/or sexual interludes.
Some are just webcam wankers.
I agree, PIB .... and SH has a place for webcam wankers too!! Everybody's place in the sun are reserved! LOL!
hi there
because of the funny things going on people saying how they are in the meantime they are not. we would like to find out how can we became one of the people that can do the verify process. we do have sometime during the month that we do not work.
must admit then we can get the pick of the crop 
:lol:
:lol: I suspect you will get your answer if you contact admin or look in the "help" section
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hi there
because of the funny things going on people saying how they are in the meantime they are not. we would like to find out how can we became one of the people that can do the verify process. we do have sometime during the month that we do not work.
must admit then we can get the pick of the crop
Orgasminator
MatleeEC, can i use your suggestion to put forward to admin
Sexpert
the rating system sounds great for assessing if people are not time waisters and bullshitters, however it opens up a public forum for people to abuse ie if someone is rejected as a playmate then they can start giving bad ratings to also makes public that which some people might prefer to keep private....i was never a fan of kissing and telling.i think S H is a great i am stood up by someone i let my friends know who they are or if , as sometimes is the case , i suspect that a guy is posing as a girl i let them know as i suggest the "friends " be devided into a friends i have met and a friends i chat with .in that way if you are planning to meet then you can be proactive and make enquiries with the appropriate people.....i need a catch phrase to end my forum posts with, any suggestions?
OKAY THE MAIN QUESTION WAS ASKED DO ANY OF THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE MEET.
Well i am now asking my self that same question :sad: . People look at a persons profile and when you send them a mail they don't answer or if person sends another person a hi showing you would like to chat. They don't answer. Those that do answer and you make arrangement's to meet do pitch or you start to chat and then they just disappear:mad:
Came on new and old members at lest answer a mail and say thank you but no thank you or you are not what we are looking for. DON'T BE RUDE
I would like to thank the FEW people that did answer. THANK YOU 
Came on new and old members at lest answer a mail and say thank you but no thank you or you are not what we are looking for. DON'T BE RUDE
I would like to thank the FEW people that did answer. THANK YOU Sexpert
I have been fortunate to have met a few lovely couples and singles from the site, and I must say they are all great people, and finding such people is like mining for gold, u have to process a lot of sand to find it
Another suggestion ....... to make it easier and much quicker for the user to let somebody know:
(Create a section in the reply mail for a "quick answer", working the same as the smileys, or the Wink for that matter)
....Not interested - not the person we are looking for,
....Maybe later, not now!
....I'm inundated with mails cannot/will not answer any mails
....Yes, interested but wait until I contact you
.....etc. (please come up with suggestions?)
Maybe this whole 'staying quiet' thing, or not answering a mail could be something that is caused by the $%@@#%^#@-syndrome?
That's why we should make it easier for those and everyone to QUICKLY give an answer, BECAUSE WE RESPECTFULLY OWE IT TO THE SH COMMUNITY
NB! While on the subject of a WINK - change the contents and the 'friendliness' in such a way that people would love to receive a wink??
Working together to improve the chances (respectfully) to meet more people on this wonderful site!
Reading through the last few posts makes me think that there should be a "housekeeping" thread where mods can copy suggestions made for development in other threads and admin can keep up with suggestions and what people would like to see.
I find this site doesn't really cater for "letting someone down lightly" in an easy and universally understood manner.
And I'm permanently frustrated that people don't actually believe what is in your profile - it's like despite the clear message that we don't want to meet with married swingers who are swinging alone... Still I'm inundated with friend requests (NOT MAILS, mind you!) from married men swinging alone.... Eventually you just give up.
Then there are those carbon copy messages... Urgh! Make an effort damn it.
Additionally, because you can't see whether you've answered a mail in your mailbox (by the way the number of daily new messages is directly proportionate to the number of photographs I uploaded in the last week...) it's difficult to remember which you've just read and are thinking on, and which are replied to, and because you can't sort the mail or see your mail with a specific person all in the same place, it then gets difficult to keep track of your conversations.
I'm sure there must have been people I dropped at some point or thought I answered but didn't and it takes ages to wade through the sent box to try it figure out. My connection just don't allow that kind of wading...
On top of this I have no friggin clue what to do with a friend request from someone who has never spoken to us.
I don't know what that is.. did the definition of 'friend' change? How can I be your friend if you've never even said hi to me?
Sometimes I'm just stumped - but if you really want to blow my mind, be everything we say we don't want, 1000kms away and friend me and then send me a mail with just this one line:
"show me your pics! :twisted: "
Nice...
I find this site doesn't really cater for "letting someone down lightly" in an easy and universally understood manner.
And I'm permanently frustrated that people don't actually believe what is in your profile - it's like despite the clear message that we don't want to meet with married swingers who are swinging alone... Still I'm inundated with friend requests (NOT MAILS, mind you!) from married men swinging alone.... Eventually you just give up.
Then there are those carbon copy messages... Urgh! Make an effort damn it.
Additionally, because you can't see whether you've answered a mail in your mailbox (by the way the number of daily new messages is directly proportionate to the number of photographs I uploaded in the last week...) it's difficult to remember which you've just read and are thinking on, and which are replied to, and because you can't sort the mail or see your mail with a specific person all in the same place, it then gets difficult to keep track of your conversations.
I'm sure there must have been people I dropped at some point or thought I answered but didn't and it takes ages to wade through the sent box to try it figure out. My connection just don't allow that kind of wading...
On top of this I have no friggin clue what to do with a friend request from someone who has never spoken to us.
I don't know what that is.. did the definition of 'friend' change? How can I be your friend if you've never even said hi to me?
Sometimes I'm just stumped - but if you really want to blow my mind, be everything we say we don't want, 1000kms away and friend me and then send me a mail with just this one line:
"show me your pics! :twisted: "
Nice...
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Well. I guess in our situation, we might not meet anyone real due to the issue of colour preferences. What a shame.
@kermit I suspect one of the reasons you are experiencing difficulty is the fact that you have no photos... getting swinging buddies is a bit like dating - you never dated with a blind-fold on right? People want to at least have an idea of what sort of shape you're in. And that's not to say that swinger only like skinny lean types... not at all, one of my most common sayings (my husband always chuckles at me) is "There is someone for everyone!"
It takes all types, for all types... everyone has their turn ons.. there are people who like all shapes of other people, but you know, when I was single I had 'types' of people I was attracted to - and nothing's changed...
Some people, seeing your gorgeous chocolate hues may be overcome with desire... well some men anyway...
Some will be won over by your witty banter and intelligent commentary... well most women anyway..
Either way you gotta invest a little to get some interest in return....
LeeEC
