The reason why you probably have a favourite beer brand is because you have plenty of options to choose from, I know it's a cheesy comparison but it goes with single guys in Swinging Heaven or any other swinging site or party. I have been in the lifestyle for a little over 2 years now, and in those two years I've had great experiences and some awful experiences. I hope to shed some light with the brothers who will see this. First and foremost be hygienic and presentable, you don't need a thousand dollar suit to be presentable, know your body and dress accordingly. And get a cologne too. I know the core of this site is sex but the art of seduction is similar has to be applied. And please shave where it matters, a beard may be great but if you can't maintain a beard I don't think you should be thinking of having sex with any woman out here. One mistake most guys make is thinking that women who are here are not getting what they need at home, this is hardly ever the case. When a couple decides to venture into swinging they're really comfortable with each other, they're usually just fulfilling a fantasy. Should you get an opportunity to play with a lady or a couple please keep in mind that you're there as part of a fantasy and to get the best experience you need to pleasure her. Nothing is comparable to giving ultimate pleasure to a lady after all. I get that not everyone has great social skills but you should be able to hold a conversation before getting into someone's pants. No woman would want to share her deepest desires with someone who can't turn them on with words, maybe they're there but I'm yet to meet them. For this experience to be great there must be mutual respect, if the husband wants to watch don't assume he is weird or can't perfom, chances are he can make her cum 10 times faster than you would. He just enjoys seeing her being pleasured by someone else. Before I get carried away it's important to chat first, that way you'll know what each person is looking for and if you are able to provide such. If for example the lady wants a white guy and you're black like me then you have to know you don't meet the criteria (unless you're Michael Jackson lol). Everyone has their preference and you have to respect that. Learn to handle rejection like a man. One more thing, swinging isn't a way to get a quick shag. There's a lot that goes on before and after playing, you're being invited into someone's most private aspect of life and that on its own is a huge privilege. Now to the couples who have or would like to play with a single man, please understand that a man is more than just a toy you use for your pleasure (this excludes dominance of course). He wants to enjoy the experience as much as you do, with that said there must be some limits and they should be discussed beforehand. We wouldn't want someone 'accidentally' putting their dick in the ass if she isn't into anal now, do we? To conclude I wish you all the best swinging experiences with multiple orgasms in between.