Hotwifing/hot wife is term widely used in the swingers lifestyle, and refers to a specific type of sexual behavior and sexual fantasy wherein a woman (generally married) in a committed relationship is permitted, with the consent of her husband/partner to have intimate sexual relations with other men.  In this dynamic, the wife derives pleasure from having other sexual partners, while the husband/partner derives pleasure from sending his wife/partner to have sex with another man, only so that he can reclaim her wet and used pussy when she returns. In so doing, the bond and love between husband and wife is strengthened and the wife is remains faithful to the husband despite having sex with other men.

Hotwifing can be amazing way to fulfill sexual fantasies and live out kinky sexual fantasies. It
can be very stimulating for both husband and wife, and an exhillirating experience to spice up marriage and relationships and enjoy other sexual fantasies.

For the husband, hotwifing creates an incredible amount of excitement which acts as an extra sexual drive. Added to that there is also the sexual kink of reclaiming your hotwife after her sex date.

For the woman who enjoys being a hotwife, establishing relationships with other men elevates her self-confidence, she gets to have varied sexual experiences and fulfil her fantasies, gets full enjoyment of extreme sexual desire, and has a happy and fulfilling sex life.
 
Hotwifing is one of the kinkiest fantasies out there, because in this only one partner is having sex outside the marriage.  For the hotwife, the experience is often one of dominance, pride, veneration, excitement, and power, the most important thing to note therefore is that while both partners are open, cooperative, and trusting of each other, it only works when both the partners are consenting.

Being a hotwife does not mean that the woman does not love her husband, or that she refuses to have sex with her husband, or that her husband is necessarily incapable of satisfying her sexually. For some women, it can just be that her sexual libido is higher than that of her husband, who allows her to have sex with other men for this, or simply that both the wife and husband get off on the idea. Others engage it to experiment with new sex, or to obtain the pleasure of strange sex, while sometimes there is something missing in the sexual dynamic with the husband and wife and being a hotwife allows the wife to explore kinks outside of this. For the husband, displaying his wife in a very hot and sexy way makes him happy - he wants and enjoys people telling him that his wife is very hot, and then he grants her permission to have sex with another man as the ultimate manifestation of her hotness. The husband then takes pride in seeing and celebrating his wife’s hotness, attractiveness, and sexual excitement by enjoying it all after she has shared it with another/others. Whatever the reasons  a couple have for having a hotwifing dynamic, it can result in intense arousal for both spouses due to engaging and experimenting with new sex, or simply obtaining the pleasure of taboo sex.

Hotwifing is not the same as cuckholding.  In cuckholding the husband (cuck) is present at the time his wife has sexual relations with another man (bull). Cuckholding may also take on elements of BDSM in the form of the husband being restrained and humiliated while his wife has sex with another man in front of him.  However, in the absence of any bdsm elements, cuckholding is known as a stag/vixen dynamic, in which the female partner (vixen) seeks a man/men (bull/s) to sleep with, either in front of, or away from her husband (stag).  A vixen can be a part of a hotwife dynamic, though no humiliation or cuckolding is present at all. Hotwifing on the other hand is generally when a wife has sex with another man with the full consent of her husband, away from her husband in a one-on-one situation where a couple enjoying different aspects of the sexual pleasure.

Incorporating this dynamic into a  marriage or committed relationship can be challenging, but definately doable as long as both husband and wife agree. This means that both of them must talk to each other openly and honestly about why this dynamic could enhance their relationship and what each one wants out of engaging in it. Conversation and consent is cannot be stressed enough since hotwifing is such a sexual fantasy in which the role of the wife is most important and the husband and must fully prepare himself mentally. If the husband pressurizes his wife to join the hotwifing arrangement, and the wife indulges in it without her consent and only under the pressure of the husband, then there can be every possibility of creating tension between the husband and wife which will not lead to a long and fruitful sexual dynamic or enhance their relationship.

Not all hotwifing arrangements work.  The truth is that some negative aspects also arise which cause the arrangement to break down. These include, but are not limited to one partner becomming uncomfortable having a relationship with a another and jealousy develops, or when one partner feels pressured to participate in the arrangement against his/her will. It is also possible for the hotwife and bull to develop romantic feelings for each other. The risk for this automatically increases whenever there is a third person in an intimate sexual relationship.

To enjoy a safe and fulfilling hotwifing dynamic, it is helpful to pay attention to the following:
 
●     Engage A Trusted Partner
Make sure that the third you want to engage with is STD and drug free, reliable, trusted and will follow the rules of your arrangement. Do not hesitate to terminate the arrangement as soon as even a single rule is bent or broken. Always look for the bull from a reputable website, dating app, or swingers club. This can give you a little more confidence in your safety, as going with a stranger can spoil the experience by becomming too nervous and wary.

●     Set limits
Always set limits and boundaires, and make sure the third person accepts and respects these. If you see anything suspicious, uncomfortable, or out of bounds, stop things there, and come out of it. Many times people get involved with you, but after joining they want more than expected, maybe demand unprotected sex, anal sex, bdsm or other things that you do not want.

●     Take Care Of Safety
Sometimes you will go alone for a hotwifing date. Ensure that your husband/partner knows exactly where and with who you are. Arrange a fixed time to call back to your husband/ partner to confirm everything is going to plan. Enable the tracker on your cell phone.

•  Keep cool and clear mind
Refrain from consuming too much alcohol or any drugs when going out on a hotwife date. You need to be always be in your full senses. If you lose control of your senses,  someone can force, misuse  or try to take undue advantage of you. Remaining in your senses allows you to better evaluate your new friend to determine that they are not a threat to you, resulting in a better and more gratifying experience them.  You will also be very clear about your expectations and boundaries with your new sex partner, and you will know if, and to what extent there is sexual attraction between you. You will will also be in a better space to share your fantasies and better accomplish what you are hotwifing for.

•  Respect the hotwife
It is true that your wife plays the main role and enjoys sexual relationships with men outside of the marriage, but this only happens with your full cooperation and consent, irrespective of the reason/s you entered the dynamic with your wife. Somewhere in this role your bliss, and hidden sexual fantasies are also being fulfilled, so enjoy it by showing the same respect and trust towards your wife that you always had, or more.

REMEMBER, being proactive and careful about your safety DOES NOT make you boring, minimize your enjoyment of sexual fantasies  or make your sex any less hot. Your greatest pleasure can be derived from controlling your safety, because you can only be hot and sexy when you feel safe and relaxed.

HAPPY HOTWIFING