A gang bang occurs when a single individual, who is the central focus of sexual activity, engages in consexual sex acts with several other individuals, either at the same time, or in immediate succession of each other.

Gang bangs are not limited to heterosexual persons and may take place with persons of all sexual orientations. The contents of this text shall, however, be limited to gang bangs that involve a woman performing sexual acts, which include oral sex, rimming, spit-roasting, vaginal, anal and double penetration, with several men who usually do not engage in sex acts with each other, and only engage with the woman, or stand nearby and masturbate while waiting for an opportunity to engage with her.

A gang bang may also be referred to as "Bukkake" (Japanese term) when it is specifically arranged to end with the simultaneous or rapid serial ejaculations of all of male participants on the woman.

The participants of a gang bang may know each other, or be complete strangers. Many persons who participate in gang bangs, however, find that the appeal of a gang bang to lie in the spontaneity and anonymity of its participants.

One would be inclined to think that a gang bang is something the overwhelming majority of women would never have the desire or guts to pursue. Afterall, the term "gang bang" by itself is not very pleasant and creates the impression that such an act is filled with aggression and humiliation, and is not at all about the woman's pleasure. Furthermore, the woman is being dominated, humiliated, used as a cum dumpster.

Surprisingly however, research conducted by surveying 4175 persons in the USA revealed that 95% of men and 87% of women have fantasized about having a gang bang. In further studies conducted at a Canadian university 28.3% of the women surveyed fantasised about having sex with more than three men and were also more likely to search for "gangbang," "rough sex" and "double penetration" porn than their male counterparts. In fact, in 2021 PornHub reported that gang bang sex was the third most sought-after genre of porn searched for and viewed by heterosexual women, despite the negative way that society as a whole perceives gang bangs. This exposes the fact that women’s sexual desires cannot be constrained by social shaming. After centuries of cultures telling women they must be prudish, their sexual desires remain.

For some women, the thrill of watching gang bang porn or taking part in it, could come from doing something that it is thought of as totally taboo, while for others, being the star attraction in a gangbang is a fantasy. Don't judge. Women's desires and sexuality are far more complicated than the romantic clichés of a woman being ravished by the love of her life for the entire duration of her life.

For the vast majority of heterosexual men, the fantasy of having sex with multiple women at the same time is a universal one. Curiously though, research inficates that when it comes to group sex, heterosexual men prefer gang bangs featuring a whole lot of penises focused on one woman. While most men will however, never actually participate in a gang bang scenario, most probably because they perceive it as being more than a little homoerotic, it can become a strongly-held fantasy, leading many men to seek this type of content out when browsing for porn.

Why then do straight men prefer gang bang pornography featuring multiple men on one woman?

Researchers have discovered that when men watch gang bang porn, in comparison with any other kind of porn, they ejaculate harder, their ejaculate contains more sperm and they get erect again sooner. Biologists believe that the reason for this lies in the theory of sperm competition.

The theory of sperm competition holds that humans evolved from ancestors who developed sexual behaviors in a non-monogamous environment where the men and women competed sexually for the control of conception. The human penis is structured in such a way that when a man has sex with a woman who has recently had sex with another man, the first man’s semen is pulled out with the second man’s penis as it gets caught behind head of the second man's penis, thereby enabling the second man to impregnate the woman instead. In the process, sex becomes sloppy because the semen that is removed lands up making a mess on the outside of the woman's vagina, giving rise to the term 'sloppy seconds'.

Other researchers suggest that homoeroticity plays a big but unconscious part. Straight men need to identify with something in the video and another man's big penis will give him that. The fact that the other man is well hung, which is usually the case in porn, takes the onlooker into a deeper erotic fantasy. Not only does he fantasize about fucking the woman in front of an audience, but he also puts himself in the skin of the actor who has the sexual power to dominate and pleasure the woman.

Whatever the reason behind it, porn studios and tube sites are unanimous in saying that heterosexual men really enjoy gang bang porn.

It is difficult to say with any degree of certainty what prompts a woman to go from fantasizing about gang bangs to actually participating in them. One antiquated psychological theory speculates that women who participate in gangbangs are mentally disturbed, pre-psychotic, and that the act is an expression of their disintegrating identity. There is however no evidence of this, and this theory is merely the result of sex negative stigma.

While I cannot speak for other women, I can relay my own experience with gang bangs. I was raised in a highly conservative family and community, where one was shamed for expressing their femininity or female sexuality. As an adult, I eventually got involved in the swinging lifestyle together with my husband. After several hotwifing and threesome experiences, I began to fantasise about a gang bang and what it would be like to be the centre of all that masculine attention.

With my husband's love, support and great effort in organizing it, I finally experienced my first gang bang while holidaying in Durban, and it was incredibly exciting. At first being surrounded by four men with rock hard cocks who had their hands over my body touching me, was quite overwhelming, but hubby was watching over me and they were all respectful and celebrated and idolized me for my beauty, and sexual responsiveness. I would even go as far as to say I got treated reverentially. I felt like a naughty goddess. I had multiple orgasms because when one guy finished, the next one was there, ready and waiting. I was on a massive high from it, but afterwards, I to integrate the fact that I was a woman that loved gangbangs. That by itself is quite a head fuck to go through with all kind of mental gymnastics in order to come to terms with it. What made it a whole lot easier for me was to see the huge smile on hubby's face as I played, and the fact that he did not love me any less, or treat me like a slut after.

Please don't get me wrong, gangbangs are not for everyone, but I have found them to be deeply empowering. I think for me, being a feminist, I disagree with the patriarchal view that men are the takers of our sexuality and women are there to be taken. I view it differently. I wanted to do it, so I did. There is something extremely exciting about having a bunch of guys all intent in pleasuring you. I am never passive or submissive during play. I am quite a dominant bitch! Being the focal point is the charm of it all. I love to see men competing with each other just to pleasure me. I also love having people looking on while I am being sexual. With each gang bang I participate in, I love and embrace my sexuality even more, giving me a feeling of pure power.

The decision to be an active participant in a gang bang should not be made without very careful consideration. I know that we are always encouraged to follow our fantasies, but ask yourself if it is really worth it to do so, considering fantasies are a free space where you have control over what is happening and how you will feel afterwards.

If however, like me, this is one fantasy you really want to turn into a reality then here are some tips to help you make it a good one:

• Explore the idea of having a gang bang in your mind and ask yourself why you want to do it? How do you feel about it? What issues come up?

• If you are in a relationship, communicate your fantasy to your partner and see how he feels about you indulging in a gang bang. Seek his consent and make 100% certain that he is on board with the idea and will not treat you like some dirty slut after.

• Take baby steps. If you enjoy watching porn as a couple, watch some gangbang porn. However, avoid watching rough gangbangs where the woman is being degraded or looks as if she is not enjoying it. By watching porn, you let others do the dirty work, so to speak. You can watch others play out what has only been alive in your wild imagination and see if it really is something the both of you want to turn into reality.

• If you are in a monogamous relationship role-play using sex toys. Buy as many dildos as you can afford in different sizes and/or colors to help replicate a real but completely safe gang bang experience, by having your partner penetrate you in the orifice of your choice with a dildo or his penis, and then either you or your partner can penetrate a remaining orifice/s such as your mouth, anus, or vagina using other dildos. To act out the fantasy of having penetrative sex with one person after another, have your partner use their penis or dildo, and then follow with another toy.

• Attend a sex party at a sex club. All reputable sex clubs have very strict rules on consent and etiquette. They are a safe place simply to talk to other sex positive attendees about your fantasy. Many people sometimes think that fantasies are unique and may harbor shame about them, it can therefore be very liberating and inspiring to see and hear other people's sexual activities and fantasies. Gang bangs also sometimes take place at these parties and you can observe first hand the dynamics involved, which can help you figure out if it's something you (and your partner) would enjoy in real life.

• Sticking to the relative safety of the club, and if you have not already done so engage in a few hotwifing and threesomes experiences. Most clubs have private play rooms. This is a way of "ramping up" to a gang bang and also properly guaging exactly how, both you and your partner cope with you having consensual non-monogamous sex.

• If you are still keen on turning your gang bang fantasy into reality, then go ahead and start organizing one.

• The key to a safe, healthy and successful gangbang is proper planning, but be warned gang bangs are not easy to organize since most heterosexual men are socialised to be somewhat homophobic and do not want to be involved in sexual activity with multiple cocks, mainly due to a fear of being called gay, or thought of as gay, even in their own minds. For some just seeing another guy naked can cause anxiety and terror.

• Establish boundaries, which must be agreed with your partner if you are in a relationship.

• Start searching for prospective participants either at sex parties or using a swingers site such as this one. Meeting strangers from the internet to organize a gang bang carries risks. Swinger events, sex parties, or simply discussing the fantasy with sex positive friends are safer and also a fantastic way to meet potential partners to turn your fantasy into reality. If you are in a relationship, involve your partner in your search and selection of prospective play mates.

• Arrange a meet and greet with your prospective participants, preferably at a public or safe venue so that you can get to know them. Make sure there is safety physically, emotionally, and energetically. Communicate your boundaries to everyone. Determine if everyone been tested for STI's and when. Establish a group plan of how to deal with something emotional that may come up for one of the participants. Determine and agree when and where the gang bang will take place, and the sexual availabity of each member. Establish safe word/s.

• Though not essential, it is always a good idea to have your partner or a friend who will not take part in the sexual activities, to act as a "marshall" in order to keep control of the participants. There will always be guys that have no idea how to touch you, or who get carried away and become too aggressive in the heat of the moment, or who do not respect your boundaries.

• Have fun and enjoy the moment. In the pressure to be star and director of your own fantasy, it is easy to miss out on being a full participant, able to enjoy everything in the moment.

In an ideal of the fantasy, the woman who is the centre of focus in a gang bang is elevated, in a sense, to being a goddess of sexuality. That she both wants and can satisfy so much sexual action presents her as having capacities above and beyond. What could be more symbolic of a woman of a higher order of sexuality than being capable of exhausting and effectively overwhelming, multiple men

Is it always fun? No. Unfortunately not every woman enjoys her gang bang because you have to deal with egos, jealousy, insecurities and trust ussues. Some of the participants are nervous or not comfortable getting undressed or having sex with others watching and suffer performance issues. Also if there sexual tension in the air, and it gets too heightened, then everyone will blow their load too soon, both metaphorically and physically, unless you keep it light and just hang out and be chilled throughout.

Be very aware that the adrenaline will flow high during a gang bang and some women suffer an adrenaline dump after, resulting in them feeling exhausted and depressed.

If you are in a committed relationship then always remember that gang bangs must be done with emotional commitment, the ultimate aim being to fuel the passion and intimacy of the couple. This is about lovers having fun as a couple and enhancing their relationship.

Wishing you a happy, safe and healthy gang bang experience.