Meeting for coffee or a meal does not, and should not imply that parties have to commit to being intimate with the other party. This should be the platform for people to break the ice and to decide whether they are really interested in their prospective new partners. This is a tool for building friendships with like-minded people, and also identifying the irritating fake people hiding behind their screens whom are too afraid to reveal themselves. This is a small community folks, we should stick together, irrespective of preference. By this I do not mean play with people against your preference, simply build acquaintances and friendships with genuine people in the lifestyle. After all, we are all open-minded, irrespective of preference. All that is needed, and should be accepted, is mutual respect for fellow swingers preferences during and after meet & greets! ... Here's just a random example - A couple/s might have a fantasy of being flown away to an inaccessible location in a helicopter to have fun... How could this happen without knowing professionals in the lifestyle to make this possible? You may know someone you met over coffee one day that you could recommend!