As we have agreed with my then girlfriend and now wife on the day that she confessed her actions and me saying I was okay with it, I then arranged with one of my friends from SH to play with her. When coming back from that meeting I asked how it went and she said the guy was rough on her and she didn't enjoy, she wouldn't want to see him again. I knew the guy was huge, I mean I have seen his pictures and videos. I sincerly apologized for the rough experience and told her that if she's not comfortable we can stop or maybe try find someone who is average but I know she likes them big just not rough. Later that night when I was eating her out I noticed that she was swollen and I believed her when she said he was huge and rough, but nevertheless I enjoyed her knowing that she was with someone else. Few days later my SH friend texted me and told me that the lady is coming and this time they are spending the whole day together. I was surprised because she told me that he was rough and she never mentioned that they were meeting again. I didn't ask, till today she doesn't know that I know and they have been together for several times now. And it gives me pleasure knowing that she's having fun.
We've now been playing together with other couples and she's comfortable playing with other guys while I am around. Although I get more excited when I wasn't there my pleasure comes in knowing that she's enjoying playing with other guys.
She's enjoying this lifestyle more than I thought she would, I mean she kisses me immediately after giving a guy a bj. She's in full control of the game now, no longer shy. And I am happy about it.