This is actually a good topic. We started about a year and a half ago and we where actually devided on this opinion. I felt our first time should be with a stranger that if something should go wrong we do not have to see the person again. My wife was very uncomfortable with it and suggested that we see if we can not try and arrange it with a very long time friend of ours whom we are very close with. a braai is an amaizing thing where we all where very comfortable and I just raised the subject ond swinging. It hit the right note and it turned out to be a very good time and point. We went home and my wife said she wanted the first time to be with him a mfm threesome off course ascwe both where not sure how we would react if it happened. I phoned him the next day and asked him if he would like to try and have a threesome with my wife, well. Two weeks later was the best turning point of my life as we enjoyed it a lot, we where back the following week and i am very comfortable with sharing my wife and we are actually better friends now than we where before. BTW he is married as well.